Category Archives: Orgasm

Sweet Sybian Sydney – The inside story

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Well, I attended my first Sweet Sybian Sydney party on Friday last week.  I have recieved a lot of email about Sweet Sybian Sydney since I blogged about it recently and I want to let everyone know that results.

The bottom line is … it was a fantastic party. If you are at all interested in the Sybian, then I highly recommend contacting Sweet Sybian Sydney, either for a private session, or to attend their next party (on the 21st of January).

So, what was the party like?

The venue is a very nice, well appointed unit in Artarmon, which is easy to get to, with plenty of parking available near by. There is a balcony available for smokers, plenty of food and drink and a relaxed and very positive, not sleazy at all atmosphere.

Sweet Sybian hosts Paul and Fleur are great.  They are really relaxed, considerate people, who look after their guest.  They gave a detailed demonstration (yes, a real demonstration by Fleur) of the Sybian to all guests before we were invited to try out the Sybian for ourselves.  This made setup and operation for each couple easy (and of course Fleur and Paul provided assistance if required).

Each machine is set up in its own room, with a bathroom available to each, so you can have complete privacy while you try it out.  If however you are more adventurous (as many couples were that night), you can leave the door open when you play with the Sybian to allow other couples to watch.

Each couple were given two half hour sessions with one of the two Sybians, let me just say that once you got set up and going, the time flew by!  You could spend a serious amount of time with one of these things.

Possibly the most important thing to know is that the machine itself (like any toy) takes time to get used to.  It has a lot of different covers (penetrating, or not, large, small, g-spot, deep, not deep).  You can adjust the height of the unit (low down, or up on a higher stand).  And you can adjust a component that causes more or less clitoral stimulation.

So be prepared to spend some time (and even a few sessions even) really getting to know how to set up a Sybian for yourself so that it gives you the maximum amount of pleasure.

Like with any sex toy thought there may be some women for whom the Sybian just doesn’t do it, but honestly, don’t let that worry stop you.  Even if it’s not the best sex toy for you, you would still have had fun on Friday night.

That said, once you have it set up, then the results can be really spectacular.  There were a lot of very happy ladies there at the end of the night!

Which brings me to another point. I think that one of the reasons that the party was so much fun was that the whole reason for everyone being there was the women and their pleasure. Not about their male partners.  All of us men were involved (and had a great time), but every single one of us was there not to please ourselves, but to do everything that we could to give our partners the best time possible.

For me, as someone who really cares about women, their pleasure, and their comfort, I can honestly say that the people who seem to be attracted to Sweet Sybian Sydney are thoughtful and considerate, open and easy to talk to and last but not least: really sexy.

That’s not to say that everyone was a super model, far from it, there was a full range of body types and ages. But I have always maintained that “sexy” is all about your mind, and the people I met on Friday night, possibly because of the comfortable, accepting, and open atmosphere, were all really, really sexy.

So, Sweet Sybian Sydney.  Just do it! It’s fun and safe, and even if you are nervous about being there in a group, I say it’s worth pushing yourself out of your comfort zone as it is an opportunity to experience something that you are unlikely to find anywhere else!

John.

Sexpo 3 – Lucid Dream vibrator from Doc Johnson

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About half of everything sold at Sexpo is probably a vibrator of some kind.  I bought a couple to give away.  The first one is the Lucid Dream No. 14 by Doc Johnson.

I was drawn to it for two reasons: the size and the shape.  Many women I know enjoy penetration and this vibrator, at 9.5 inches long is a good size for that.  It’s shape, as you can see looks like it would work well for g-spot stimulation.  And the location of the vibrating bullet means that you would get plenty of powerful stimulation, whether you used it on your clit, or to target your g-spot inside.

The demo unit I played with proved that the vibration is quite strong (for a battery operated unit) and it was relatively quiet too.

The unit is phthalate free and interestingly it claims to be waterproof.  This open up a whole new area for fun in the shower, or bath …

The manufacturers product page can be found here:

http://www.docjohnson.com/index.php/vibrators/lucid-dream-no-14.html

So, I have one Lucid Dream No. 14 and a bottle of Swiss Navy natural lube to go with it to give away to the next person to book an overnight date.

John.

Sunday afternoon fun – Improv. sex swing

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It’s a lazy Sunday afternoon with nothing much to do, so how better to spend it than whipping up an improvised sex swing and having some fun?

Now, if you have no idea of what a sex swing is, it is usually a set of straps or ropes, designed to be suspended from the cieling that hold one partner suspended comfortably off the floor and exposed and positioned for the other partner to administer some serious pleasure.  If your still wondering what I am talking about, then check out this Google image search on sex swing.

If your not handy with tools and don’t have a climbing harness laying around then you can always buy a commercial sex swing.  I came across this one:

http://www.peaksensuality.com/ProductDetails.aspx?productID=1179

quite a good looking sex swing for just under $200.

So, what can you do with a sex swing?

It’s great for giving oral sex to a partner, as they are raised up (in our case, above the bed) allowing easy access without straining your neck or cramping your legs.  It also creates interesting tensions in your body for the person who is suspended which can enhance orgasm.

It’s interesting for penetration, since you can create the strong sensations of thrusting sex with out even having to move, just some very gentle pushing to set up a rythmic swinging motion which does all of the work for you.  Very different to regular sex for both partners.

If you are a voyeur or an exhibitionist then a a sex swing will be right up your alley (so to speak!) as it gives you a great view of your suspended partner.

Ultimately a sex swing is just plain fun.  It’s like nothing you have done before and I highly recommend giving it a try one day!

John.

The Sybian

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Some years ago I came across what was and I think still is considered the ultimate vibrating sex toy for women: The Sybian.

A Sybian (on the right) with accessories and attachments

A Sybian (on the right) with accessories and attachments

This is a Sybian. It’s designed to be sat upon (with your choice of attachment for penetration, or not).  And it has a remote control unit for vibration speed/power.

A woman can use the Sybian on her own, or with the soft cover without the penetration insert (bottom centre in the photo) then it is possible for a couple to have sex doggy style while she receives strong clitoral stimulation.

I mentioned the Sybian to a client the other day (hi Rachael!) and she came across a relatively new site through Google of a Sydney based company that offers Sybian parties and hire.

You can see their site here:

http://sweetsybiansydney.blogspot.com/

Sweet Sybian Sydney run parties just for women and also for couples to try out a Sybian.

John.

Sex in relationships

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If you keep an eye on sexuality related trivia like I do, then you may have noticed a few months ago that a French woman successfully sued her husband (and was awarded AUD$13,500 in damages) because he failed to fulfill his duty as a husband to provide sex to his wife during their marriage.

http://www.smh.com.au/world/strangebuttrue/husband-ordered-to-pay-wife-for-lack-of-sex-20111130-1o5oj.html

The husband appealed the decision and lost.  The ruling and the damages stand.

When I first read about this I was amazed.  This sort of situation is very familar to me (as is the reverse).  But the French legal system has potentially just set a precident that has absolutely huge implications, at least in their own country.

The first thing that comes to mind is: this opens the flood gates for men, unsatisfied with their sex lives to sue their wives for damages.  The second is: what about our right as individuals to say “no”?

The more you pick at this issue the more complex it gets, and I expect that in the short term at least, only the lawyers are going to win from it.

What I do see though is that this ruling (in France at least) puts a spotlight on our relationships and how we treat each other sexually.  I recently made a post offering a Master Class in giving great oral sex to women and I think that this court case confirms my thinking.  Guys: we need to put a lot more effort into pleasing our partners (and being able to give great oral sex is a much appreciated skill).  And it’s not hard to do.  Yes it takes effort and a little thought, but honestly it’s not that hard.

What you need is:

  1. To understand you partner and your own sexuality (what you each like, what you don’t like, what turns you on, what satisfies you)
  2. A few specific skills (how to give oral sex, how give your partner an orgasm, what she likes when it comes time to have penetrative sex)
  3. A plan that delivers what each of you need and want

I have had occassion to discuss these issues with women and couples and often it is relatively easy to find ways to help overcome the hurdles.  A little bit of understanding, a little bit of effort and flexibility can transform the situation.

I am not a sex therapist, or medial professional, but I do have a lot of real world experience, that I am able to share.  I also have the big advantage as a sex worker over a health professional that I am ethically able to demonstrate and directly teach men and women the physical techniques that I use and know.

So, here’s an open invitation to men, women, and couples.  Do you want to improve your sex life?  If you do, then contact me; post a comment below, send me an email, or give me a call and we can talk about what might work for you.  If you don’t think that your partner would want to be involved, don’t worry, we can still talk and find solutions that you can implement on your own.

Lets keep the courts out of our bedrooms and start having better sex!

John.

Masterclass: giving great oral sex to women

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Really good oral sex is great for women, and it’s the easiest way for a man to give his partner an orgasm.  Personally I love to give oral sex and I find that giving serious pleasure to my partner is enjoyable for me too.  It’s satisfying and rewarding beyond description to me when my partner reaches orgasm and I feel the waves of her pleasure pulse through her body beneath my tongue and hands.

Sadly not all men know how to do what their partners need to bring them to orgasm.  And it is a skill that has to be learned and practiced. No-one is born with it.

I have spent most of my adult life learning the techniques that I know, learning to read the signs that a woman is enjoying what I am doing with her, and finding new ways to give pleasure.

If you and your partner want to learn my techniques, then join my Master Class: Giving great oral sex to women.

WARNING!
This class involves being nude and the female partner receiving
oral sex from me and her partner as part of the process of instruction.

How does it work:

  • The class runs for two hours
  • Involves one or more couples
  • Begins with basic anatomy (you have to know what the parts of a woman’s genitals are to be able to give maximum pleasure)
  • Description of basic techniques
  • Demonstration of basic techniques (so she knows what you should be doing and you get to see it being done)
  • Practice (with my guidance).

Who can attend:

  • Any couple who want to learn about giving great oral sex to women.

What does it cost:

  • $350 per couple (if just one couple attends)
  • $200 per couple (for two or more couples at the same time).

When can we do it:

  • There is no set schedule.  Just contact me when you are ready and arrange a time
  • If you are comfortable doing the class with another couple please let me know and I will try to arrange a time that suits everyone.

What should we bring:

  • A willingness to learn
  • Patience
  • An open mind

What should we leave behind:

  • Your inhibitions – this class is not for men with issues of possesiveness.  If you are going to learn, then I have to be able to show you what to do, which means finding out what your partner enjoys and demonstrating it with her to you.  If either of you can’t handle that, then this class is not for you
  • Fear that you might fail – these techniques take time to learn.  You need to be prepared to practice and fail and practice again.  I have spent years learning my techniques and I am still learning now
  • An expection that you will be perfect in two hours – see above

The science of female orgasm

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While browsing New Scientist on-line today I came across two articles about scientific study of female orgasm.  Links below:

There isn’t anything startlingly revelatory in either, but it does make for interesting reading.

For instance, fMRI scans have shown that for some women, stimulation of their nipples causes a response in their brain in the same area that vaginal stimulation activates.  As mentioned in the article, to female researchers this is completely obvious.  However male researchers were surprised (which frankly is not surprising).

One of the main findings is summed up here:

“During orgasm, almost the whole brain becomes highly active”

This is interesting, as it matches what I have been told by women: that during an intense orgasm they are totally transported out of the “here and now”.  It also explains perhaps why, if your mind is being distracted by other things, or not entirely engaged with the experience that it is so hard to achieve orgasm.

If you are interested in the science of orgasm, then these articles are worth a look.

John.