“Manly stubble” is a common feature for male fashion photos – and male sex worker photos. However, in my experience while there are some women who love stubble on a man when they are kissing, receiving oral etc – most do not.
So guys – if you don’t know a woman’s preference – ask! And if you can’t ask, then just have a shave, because it’s a safe bet that she probably won’t enjoy your brillow pad face between her legs.
John
To all of men out there who would like to give their wife or partner a special experience – suggesting she see a full service sex worker is probably not the fist thing that she would like to do!
However there is every chance that she might enjoy an erotic massage.
Most people are familiar with massage and plenty of people have probably wondered what it would be like to have a massage from someone attractive who might go – a little bit further…
So what does an erotic massage involve and include?
Location: personally I like to give an erotic massage on a bed rather than a massage table as it allows for a wider range of activities, but either works.
(Un)dress: here’s one of the nicest things (I think) about an erotic massage – you get to do away with the strategically placed towels and avoiding of areas that we would really like to be massaged, but never get touched. Your masseur can be dressed, or naked too, whichever you desire.
How it feels: Gentle massage that is designed to arouse. It might include not just hands, but forearms, trailing hair, and even full body slide…
Where it goes: wherever she wants it to. It could be as little a fully naked massage just of her back, or of her front too. There can be breast massage and nipple play. There can be massage of inner thighs and outer labia. There can be clitoral play, finger play, and even oral sex.
Where it doesn’t go: anywhere that you are not comfortable for it to go.
Where it ends: with an orgasm for her if that is where she wants it to end.
Erotic massage with me is a sensual indulgence that lets a woman have as much or as little intimacy as she desires.
So – to all of the men out there who want to give their partner a special experience, an erotic massage is a great option!
John
So. Most women take more than an minute of two to reach orgasm. Some however can cum much quicker. There is a group of women for whom this isn’t a problem as they can just orgasm again and again in waves. However for women who generally only climax once (and then become highly sensitive, or just experience their arousal naturally decreasing) holding off that one big orgasm actually becomes central to a sexual experience that is satisfying and intense.
As someone who has experienced and had to overcome the curse of premature ejaculation I feel this is a topic that I can add some value to.
The problem for most men is that we are used to women who are the other way around and require a strong stimulation and a long build up. So that’s what we tend to assume a woman needs and wants.
What really helps at this point is some direction from her – a quick “I cum really easily and I’d like to hold off until XYZ” lets us know to go slowly and gently and just tease and edge her. I find this really fun to do. It’s a challenge to read her body and moderate my efforts as she gets close to orgasm, then increase them again as she drifts back…
There are also some things that the woman can do as well to slow herself down. Just like a man with premature ejaculation the techniques are simple and when practiced can produce positive results quite quickly.
Ultimately practice and a dedication to changing the way your sexual response is wired is the key. Practice the techniques and you will see change. Practice enough and you will get to where you want to be – with control over your arousal level and able to choose when you are ready to let go and have your orgasm.
John
Giving oral sex to women is one of my favourite things to do. It always has been and I am generally told I am pretty good at it. And most women can reach orgasm with me that way.
But there’s a trick to helping a woman orgasm from oral sex – it’s something that I think I have always done instinctively, but according to a number of women I have asked, many men just don’t understand it.
The trick, is to be consistent – don’t change your style when she is getting close to orgasm!
So you need to be aware of what that looks and feels like. There are many signs (but be aware that not all women will show them, so a little help sometimes from her saying she’s getting close can be good), arching her back, tensing her stomach muscles and thighs, her vagina clenching, change in pitch and tone of her voice and breathing…
It’s all there to read if you pay attention – and that is when you really, really need to just keep doing what you are doing for her. No need to go faster or harder – what you are doing is working, so just KEEP DOING IT!
Most of the time with most women she will continue to sail on to have an orgasm and all will be right in the world.
There’s a lot more I could say about giving good oral sex, but that’s a story for another time. This PSA was just about the ending – and making it as happy as possible!
John
Is there something that you particularly love, hate, or just wish that men new about sex? Drop a comment or an email john@john-oh-escort.com and I’ll do a PSA on it.