I am John Oh, straight male escort for women. I live in Sydney, Australia and work in Sydney, Canberra, and Melbourne.
I am one of Sydney’s most experienced male escorts for women and offer a service that I believe is second to none.
Book a date with me to experience the luxury of personal intimate attention. From relaxing talk with a glass of wine, to a meal cooked to order, erotic massage, and of course intense and satisfying sex.
If you would like to see photos of me, please see my photos page.
I am available to travel interstate or internationally if you would like to fly me to you, or have me travel with you on your holiday.
If you would like to chat with me you can drop me an email, send me a text, or give me a call. I am also happy to chat by Skype if you would like to get to know me better.
Disclaimer – I am not a doctor. Please don’t take anything I say here as medical advice. Check with your doctor before you make any decisions about using antidepressants.
Over the years I have met a lot of women who have been taking SSRI antidepressants (selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors). Many of them have, as a side effect, found it either very difficult, or impossible to reach orgasm while taking these medication – and the effects don’t just disappear as soon as you stop taking an SSRI, it can take time and may leave you experiencing sexual stimulation differently.
Everyone has to make the decision that is right for them about the medication that they take, whether they can accept the side effects given the benefits etc. My problem is that doctors seem to down play, or not explain – or possibly not even know – many of the side-effects of the medications that they are prescribing.
In the case of SSRI’s I believe that the effects on sexual function are seen as virtually irrelevant by many doctors and are rarely explained. You could reasonably say that treating the symptoms of depression, which can be very serious, are more important than a woman being able to have an orgasm. But that is treating depression in a very narrow way and in my opinion overlooks the benefits of a healthy sex life.
SSRIs tend to smooth out emotional swings, preventing the huge dips and also preventing the highs, but it should also be recognised that taking away what is a very intimate pleasure – being able to achieve orgasm – can be extremely distressing.
We shouldn’t – in my opinion – be sacrificing one thing for another – or, at the very least, making sure that people are *fully* aware of the consequences of taking the medication that they are being prescribed before they start to take it.
You have probably been hearing about artificial intelligence in the media recently. The company OpenAI in particular has been making a lot of waves with its ChatGPT artificial intelligence service. And honestly ChatGPT is absolutely astounding in what it can achieve.
So, being the person I am with an interest in technology and how it can help me I thought I’d have a look at ChatGPT and see what it might be able to do for me and my business as a male escort for women.
One of the favourite tests you can see people on Youtube doing with ChatGPT is asking it to give them suggestions for articles to write about a subject. Knowing virtually nothing about ChatGPT and how to drive it besides what I had seen other people do I thought I’d start with that. I wanted to write an article for this site today but wasn’t feeling inspired by any of the ideas I’ve jotted down in the last couple of weeks.
So I asked ChatGPT: “Suggest some article subjects about female sexuality and male escorts”. This is what came back:
While all the suggestions were relatively “high-level” the topics that ChatGPT suggested were definitely on target. So well done ChatGPT.
However there is a problem. “This content may violate our content policy…”
Sigh. Here we go…
I dutifully followed the link provided to OpenAI’s content policy and I find this:
“Disallowed usage of our models
We don’t allow the use of our models for the following:”
Promoting sexual services. Yup. That’s me banned then.
I haven’t been involved in sex work advocacy for several years now, but this sort of thing reminds me that the fight for the rights of sex workers is far, far, FAR from over.
I first bumped into this kind of problem when making erotic films. Music is an important part of setting the mood in a film and several years ago there was a big boom in online royalty free music libraries (which ironically generative AI may yet kill). That’s great because you can subscribe, download the music that suits your work, add it in and you are done, nothing more to pay. But not if you are making erotic content. That’s *always* excluded in their terms of service. Last time I checked, none of the big royalty free music sites allowed use of their libraries in anything “adult” related. As a result there is only a quite small set of music that I can legally choose from when making a new film.
And of course OpenAI have done the same thing. Western (in particular US and Australian) prudishness is incredibly exclusionary and as stock or AI generated images and music become more and more prevalent, sex workers and our ability to create and promote our work becomes harder.
Now my business isn’t about to fail because I can’t use a song, or have AI generate article topics, but it’s another barrier unfairly place in front of me and every other sex worker in the world. And it demonstrates that the fight for sex work rights – which ultimately translates into your right as a prospective, or actual purchaser of sex work services – is an ongoing battle.
There will always be people who openly and directly oppose us and our work, but the people and businesses who casually oppose us because they are too scared of what the loud people might say about them are just as big a problem and far more insidious.
I just wanted to post a short update – I made a new film recently with a woman who contacted me some time ago in response to a conversation that I had with a commenter about diversity (and the lack there of) in my erotic films.
It’s a valid criticism and I am delighted to have a film made with an older woman with “an average body” in her words.
So I am delighted to be able start to redress that balance. Zoe and I are still working through the final edit and making small changes where required, so it will probably be another week or so before I have the finished film is ready to release – so, something to look forward to for all of you who enjoy my films!
Thank you for watching and thank you Zoe for participating!
For many years now I’ve been an advocate for the decriminalisation of sex work – which I benefit from here in NSW (and increasingly in other states and territories here in Australia and New Zealand). I encourage decriminalisation because it is very good for the health and safety and general well-being of sex workers and clients.
Now there is evidence that it is good for the rest of society as well. I was sent a link to an article that reported on a recent study of 31 European countries from 1990 to 2017 which shows that countries that liberalised their sex work laws saw a decrease in instances of rape. Where as countries that cracked down in sex work saw an increase in instances of rape.
So there we have it. Consensual sex work makes society safer (it wasn’t clear from the article if the statistics were gendered or not).
I’m pleased to hear this news and it adds yet another reason to support decriminalisation.
One unexpected result from the study was that countries that criminalised the purchase of sex but not the sale of sex had the worst outcomes. I doubt that will make the people who are fighting to “abolish” sex work, especially through the criminalisation of its purchase, stop and think about the harm that they are actually doing to their society. But at least it’s empirical evidence to throw in the face of the lawmakers who listen to them and vote to criminalise sex work on the basis of “protecting women”.
We are extremely lucky here in most of Australia and New Zealand – as sex workers and as clients. It is easy to forget that the all of the rest of the world labours under some sort of criminalisation of sex services. For all our faults as a society here in Australia we have at least gotten that right.
Would you like to slow down for a little while? Take a bath together… Spend some time exploring touch and kissing… Then going further…
Thank you to Emelia for working with me to make this film. It is longer than the films I usually make at almost twenty five minutes. I hope that you enjoy it!
“Manly stubble” is a common feature for male fashion photos – and male sex worker photos. However, in my experience while there are some women who love stubble on a man when they are kissing, receiving oral etc – most do not.
So guys – if you don’t know a woman’s preference – ask! And if you can’t ask, then just have a shave, because it’s a safe bet that she probably won’t enjoy your brillow pad face between her legs.
I realised that I have left somewhat of a gap in my writing for women with a disability. That is that for some women with a disability looking to book my services it will also be the first time that they have sex.
So I think that it’s worth acknowledging that fact as it complicates two situations that are already challenging – booking a male sex worker and having sex for the first time while working around a disability of some kind.
I have negotiated this hurdle with three women with disabilities in the past and with a bit of planning and conversation beforehand and plenty of patience and communication during the booking it has always worked out well.
From my experience it is generally just a matter of lots of foreplay, going extra slow, and checking in regularly. Do that and it’s going to be a pain free experience of sex for the first time is.
If you would like to talk to me about first time sex and disability issue please feel free to drop me an email or text. I’m always happy to discuss your needs and work out a solution that you are comfortable with.
Finding myself in Sydney on Monday (a rarity for me, as I’m usually down in the Southern Highlands for the first few days each week) I decided to go for a walk. Headphones to listen to an audio book and my favourite walking shorts – little did I know that somewhere along that 10km walk the entire crotch of my shorts would disintegrate! Luckily I was wearing black underwear. Anyway – now I need some new shorts!
I think it’s fair to say that the US as a society has a dysfunctional relationship with sex work. Conservative politics and conservative religion make sex work almost entirely illegal, in a country where there is just as much sex work as anywhere else in the world. It’s bad for sex workers, client of sex workers, and the society as a whole.
It also has other effects – one being that I can’t risk visiting the US, not even for a holiday.
Facial recognition technology is widely used at the US boarder to match Canadian sex workers with photographs scraped from their online advertising and they are barred from entering the US. I don’t know if this same technique is used against sex workers from other nations, but being turned back at the border and potentially being denied entry again for up to ten years is something that I’m not keen to risk.
So, sadly, I have to turn down the requests that I receive to visit the US – or to even visit as a tourist. I would love to see more of the US, but while I’m a sex worker it’s just not going to happen.
However – if you are from the US and would like to meet me, then the best option is for you to take a trip down under and visit me here in Sydney, Australia. I have a neat and private apartment and Sydney is a great spot to explore from, whether it’s local or around the rest of the nation.
So if you would are from the US and would like to book me, then consider taking a trip to Oz. You will be very welcome!
I recently happened across this article from Slate.com (here) that I was quoted in a while back and I thought upon reading it again that it was worth commenting on the reader’s word choice when referring to sex workers.
“Prostitute” is a loaded term. And for people who work in my industry it has a lot of negative connotations. It’s why most people who sells sexual services prefers the term “sex worker”.
It’s a much more clear definition. It’s work. And it involves sex. We are sex workers.
Culturally the term “prostitute” is linked to exploitation, implies a lack of autonomy (individually and financially) and even a lack of legitimacy.
The idea that someone “had to prostitute themselves” to survive, or succeed is an inherently negative statement. “had to”. Not “chose to”. Or “wanted to”. “Had to” is the way we would most likely hear that described.
And this is where people who oppose sex work will say “But what about all of the women who have no choice?” (they rarely acknowledge that men do sex work too). The answer is that those people are generally what we call “survival sex workers”. Forced by economic, personal, or social realities to do work that they may not choose to otherwise – and they are often punished legally and socially because of that.
As sex workers we support these people and their right to survive however they have to, but at the same time what we fight for is to see the work decriminalised so that they can seek any and all physical, legal, and medical help that they may need to do their work in safety and good health.
Every society has sex worker. It is a reality of humanity – but how we look at sex work and especially the words we choose when we are talking about it go a long way to how sex workers are treated and perceived.
So while “prostitute” may be a linguistically valid word to describe what I do, it is not the right word for todays society. I am not a “prostitute” I am a “sex worker”, with all of the connotations that carries.
