Anal play – a beginners guide

This can be an embarrasing topic for most people (men and women) to talk about, let alone explore.

So, in case you were wondering about it, I thought that I would post a short article that may put it in perspective, or shine some light on the subject (no pun intended).

The first thing to know is: if you are wondering about anal play and sex, then you are not alone. The vast majority of women I know are at the very least curious about it. Most haven’t tried it, many are uncomfortable (but still curious), and some have discovered just how wonderful it can be.

The second thing to know is this: in my experience, most women will really enjoy anal play (that is the stimulation of the anus with fingers and sex toys), even to the point of it helping to bring them to orgasm, or making orgasms more intense. But most women won’t enjoy actual anal sex (certainly not without lots of practice, patience, and a partner ready to work at making it enjoyable).

For most women, anal sex requires a lot of preparation, experience, care, lube, and communication between lovers for it to be enjoyable and not painful. So my recommendation: start with anal play, it’s safe, simple (really just an extension of more traditional foreplay) and can have absolutely amazing results.

The hardest part though is starting out. If you have been with a partner for a while, or just started having sex with a new partner, then it can be a hard subject to broach. I have a friend who enjoys anal play enormously who once told me that she first tried it when she had a fling with someone who just suggested it out of the blue when they were having sex. He also had a genuine foot fetish, so trying anal sex was just one more exciting thing to experience in a night of discovery.

A person’s anus is a very sensitive area, rich with nerve endings that provide lots of opportunity for stimulation, without even the need for actual anal sex. A well lubricated finger can create exquisite, intense, pleasure. And when combined with traditional oral sex, can give you a mind blowing orgasm.

Speaking of the mind, it can be both friend and enemy. Many women are worried that anal play is dirty, or unpleasant. But basic hygiene ensures that it is fresh and clean for your lover. It’s really important to be in the right frame of mind, and a shower beforehand can give you extra confidence.

Once you are over that personal hurdle things can start to get really wild. No matter what anyone says, anal play is definitely naughty! And that’s where the fun really begins. Having something naughty done to you that also feels fantastic is a recipe for the best orgasm of your life. A lover with some experience will find ten ways to play with your arse that will blow your mind and leave you dying for more.

When a lover really does it right, you won’t even be able to say what it is that they are doing, it will all just blend into a symphony of pleasure from your clitoris, labia, vagina, and arse all together.

If you book a date with me and (like most women) you are curious about the erotic possibilities of anal play, then I am happy to explore it with you and help you find out if it is something that you genuinely enjoy. This is one of the benefits of a date with me: there is nothing at risk from asking for whatever it is that you want to try. I am never going to be judgemental, or make you feel bad, I will just do my best to give you what it is that you want and make it mind-blowingly good.

If you would like to read more about anal sex and anal play, I would recommend looking up Tristan Taormino and her website http://www.puckerup.com/. Tristan has a lot of good information to share and is highly entertaining.

John.

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  1. ‘….when a lover really does it right, you won’t even be able to say what they are doing…..’ yep, that’s exactly describing how last Friday night was for me, with you- there was a lot of stimulation going on everywhere, including anal, and it felt *amazing* and the orgasms? mind blowing ;-)

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