Breast play with Inessa – NSFW!

A few weeks ago, I received a comment from a reader Vanessa who pointed out that all of the women who I have made films with over the years have been “slim” and that she found that somewhat off putting. It was a reasonable point to raise and one that I have contemplated myself in the past.

The problem is that the women who agree to film with me are a self selecting group – meaning that they are confident enough in their bodies to appear in one of my films, which mostly means that they are relatively slim. Curvy women haven’t volunteered to film with me, so it’s been impossible for me to be more inclusive.

However, coincidentally, after that conversation one of my clients who is quite curvy did agree to film with me. This is the story of how we planned her session and then filmed it…

I have been wanting to make another film for my site for a while, however the stress of covid and difficulties with travel conspired to make it all but impossible until recently. One of my clients – Inessa – volunteered to make a film with me for the website. I spent some time considering what might be fun to film. I have a lot of material featuring massage and oral sex and I wanted to do something different. I came up with the idea of breast play. So I suggested that to Inessa and she liked it.

Here (with her permission) are her ideas about how we could do it…

I’m warm, wet, naked, and in the bath …and pondering on you ‘playing‘ with my naked breasts and making them feel glorious in the process… Here are a few thoughts for you…

Take things slowly. Don’t rush. Make things build; you might even start by kneading my whole breast over my clothes – and I will really enjoy you telling me now and then how much you enjoy my breasts and playing with them; telling me what makes them unique and special to you; telling me how much you enjoy my naked body

Start by deliberately focusing on everywhere but the nipples – undress me and leave me naked to your touch (admittedly with corset on). To relax, and enjoy every moment? I will need to be lying down and comfortable, I think…

So focus to start with on my full breast : touch them, massage them and start to kiss them lightly – talk to me. Tell me specifically what you’re enjoying about my body in the moment . Start to centre in on my nipples and keep your touch really light and tease me . Work me up; focus on my nipples and get me into it and then divert your attention away and back to my fuller breast. Don’t neglect the sides or under boob areas and of course, focus as much attention and sensation on one breast as the other.

Do some actions on both breasts at once, and then Focus in on one breast at a time. Having started light and gentle, get rougher . Blow cool air on my nipples; Now lick them; suck them gently; then suck them hard. Maybe some light biting ? But mix things up because as I build I’ll be wanting more and more. It’ll be like edging – but purely breast focused …I really enjoyed on our Friday session when you suddenly kissed and sucked my breasts having just kissed me – the suddenness of the attention. Sometimes when you’re moving over me you kiss my side or my breast and – that feels really, realllllly good. Just a small moment in passing. Just lovely.

Don’t forget to keep talking and telling me how it’s making you feel – not too much talk , but I really enjoy it when we’re almost whispering our enjoyments to each other in the moment. Just keep mixing things up and then making sensations crescendo through speed and/or intensity.

I honestly think that you’ll know exactly what I enjoy because I respond so naturally to what you do – But yes, thinking it through, then everything I have described here, I would so very much enjoy experiencing you doing with and to me …..mmmmm….I really look forward to it .

I love being your breast muse, John 💋😘

So that was our starting point. We discussed her ideas further and refined them a little, but mostly we ended up filming what she had described. You can see our film here below. I hope you enjoy it…

I am committed to representing as wide a range of women’s body types, ethnicity, and ages as I can. I hope this film has started to broaden that base and show how all women can be sexy, not just a lucky few. If you would like to be part of that celebration, then let me know and we can plan something special for you!


Politics of the bra

As a man I will never need to worry about bras – proper fitting, discomfort, and – most of all – the politics of wearing or not wearing one. This article:

Was a surprise to me, but I guess I have to say, not too much of a surprise. After all, we are all human and people will always find a reason to be uncomfortable with other individuals around them. It’s sad that when a woman chooses not to wear a bra (which is a medically sound decision) she will be subject to public critiscism, by other women.

Just reading this article highlighted the complexity of the way human psychology works. Most of us, most of the time, don’t make decisions that are rational. We are for the most part reflexive creatures. Acting on our instincts before we even realise it, then creating justifications to defend our actions.

We can see it in the people who attack sex work as an industry. They have a problem with commercial sex and they try to hide it behind rhetoric about “saving” sex workers. We can also see it in people who attack, or denigrate the idea of a woman seeing a sex worker. Most of my clients are very selective about who they tell that they have or are going to see a sex worker like me.

There is always the fear that friends and relatives will disapprove and they will suffer from social stigmatisation as a result. It’s a very difficult situation.

In the years that I have been working in this industry I have seen it change – a lot. A big part of that change has been because of positive media attention, in this country. Articles published a few years ago about women buying sex transformed many people’s views. As a result, the industry grew significantly and many women started thinking about and making choices about their sex life that included being able to pay for sex and have it on their terms.

Women are choosing the see sex workers like me to have sex for the first time, to rediscover their bodies and their sexuality, to fill a need that the pressures of life and work prevent them from doing in traditional relationships – or just because they want to!

At the end of the day we can find all of the good reasons under the sun as to why a woman should be able to choose to pay a sex worker for their time and skills, but much like choosing to wear a bra, or not, it should be her choice, free of stigma. Free of judgment. And supported as her right.


Breast reduction

Everyone loves boobs. I most certainly do. Big, small, it doesn’t matter. They are a panacea – they make me feel happy when I am sad, let me forget my pain when touched, and arouse passion in the heat of the moment. They truly are fabulous.

For many women though, they are a – literal – burden. Any woman with really big boobs will know the problems – back ache, the discomfort of wearing a bra, the pain of sport. The pain of trying to have a conversation without your boobs being stared at.

So. Many women opt for reduction surgery. It is something that I see a surprising amount of in my work. There are a lot of women in this country who are opting for it. The Sydney Morning Herald recently ran an article by Jo Hartley about it here…

It is her personal story of the experience of growing up to have a 34F bust, how that effected her life, and how transforming it was to have reduction surgery that reduced her bust to a more manageable 34D.

I expect that most women would be nervous, even fearful of having surgery on such a sensitive part of their body. It’s understandable. Not just the fear of the surgery itself and the risk of something going wrong, but of the results. Will they still look ok? Will they still be sensitive? All reasonable questions, and if you are considering this surgery, well worth talking to your doctor about before going ahead.

For my part, I can say that I have seen the results of many reduction surgeries and the vast majority are really very good. Some so good that I didn’t even notice until it was pointed out to me.

There are risks of course with any kind of surgery, but if your breasts are making your life difficult and painful, then I think that it is well worth considering.


The beauty of breasts

It will come as no surprise I am sure to hear that I like (love) women’s breasts.  They are fabulous.  Large or small, they all have their own charm.

I came across an article today in Fairfax’s Daily Life site about breasts and thought it worth sharing.  You can see the original article here:

The author of the article (who wrote/edited a book about breasts to support breast cancer research after having cancer herself) found herself troubled by just how prudish our society (western society) is about breasts.  Most significantly the way that womens’ breasts are treated as sexual where as mens’ are not.

Ultimately it’s just one more arbitrary thing in our culture.  Some people develop fetishes for feet, or hands, or being sat on, or … just about anything you can think of.  Our society has create a general fetish for womens’ breasts, but not mens’.  There is plenty to say here about double standards and the objectification of women.

What I would like to say is – given that our society in general has this fetish and it’s not going away any time soon – the best thing that we can all do is learn to enjoy what we have to the full.  Many men don’t appreciate the pleasure that a women can get from having her breasts touched and stimulated.  Also, many women don’t appreciate how enjoyable it can be for them either.  There are so many ways to do it, from massaging the whole breast with fingers and hand, to exquisite nipple play with lips, fingers, or toys.

So, while we wait for equality in bare breasted to happen, lets explore the pleasure to be had from this collective fetish and re-discover breast play as part of a fulfilling sex life!