Donations sought to support sexual services for the disabled

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Having had a number of dates now with women who I have met via the organisation People With Disbilities I would like to go a step further and make my service more affordable to these clients.

To this end my partner suggested that I ask for donations from you, my readers to a fund that would go toward reducing the price of my service for clients who have a serious disability.

  • I am seeking donations of any size (even a dollar is fine!)
  • From anyone who cares to donate, be they individuals, or organisations
  • You can make a donation in person, or to my bank account
  • All donation will be kept anonymous (unless you ask me otherwise)
  • All donations will be listed on my Donations page
  • All distributions of donated money will be listed anonymously on the donations page
  • Donations will be used to reduce the cost of my services by two thirds to people with serious disabilites
  • Donations will be distributed as soon as they reach a level that allows the next person on the list to recieve a discount, so my first target is $250

To donate or to register to recieve a reduced cost for my services:

I have started the fund off with a donation from myself and my partner of $100.  That means that we just need another $150 to reach the first goal and give someone who really deserves it the Christmas present of, well, me! So, drop me a line, or send me a text and give a few dollars.  As worthy causes go, it is one that very few people even know of, let alone care about.  People with disabilites deserve the oportunity to experience their sexuality, just like the rest of us!

John.

Site error!

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This is just a quick post to apologise to anyone who couldn’t get into my site yesterday.  I upgraded WordPress and failed to test the splash page.  The rest of the site worked fine, but it was locking new visitors out!

So, my apology if you couldn’t get in.

John.

Movie – Whip It

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Sitting here in my hotel catching up on email and other work and I see a preview for the movie Whip It.  I actually saw this movie on DVD a few months ago (before my local video hire shop went the way of the dodo).

Now given the themes of some of my recent posts I dare say you are expecting a bit of S&M here, but not at all.  In fact there is no sexual theme here at all.  Whip It is a movie about Roller Derby.  I love Roller Derby.

From the Whip It Wikipdeia entry:

“Whip It is a 2009 comedy-drama film written by Shauna Cross, based on Cross’s novel Derby Girl. The film is directed by Drew Barrymore in her directorial debut. It stars Ellen Page as a teenager from a small town who joins a roller derby team.”

And if you are wondering what Roller Derby is …

“Roller derby is a contact sport played by two teams of five members roller skating in the same direction around a track. Game play consists of a series of short matchups (“jams”) in which both teams designate a scoring player (the “jammer”) who scores points by lapping members of the opposing team. The teams attempt to assist their own jammer while hindering the opposing jammer —in effect playing both offense and defense simultaneously. Roller derby is played by more than 1,000 amateur leagues on every inhabited continent. [ed. – and is mostly a female dominated sport – go girls!]”

Also from Wikipedia!

Whip It was a lot of fun.  If you are looking for something to watch on one of these wet cold summer night, then I recommend Whip It!

John.

Sweet Sybian Sydney – update

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Sweet Sybian Sydney have just let me know that their next party will be on Saturday the 21st of January 2012. They may also be running another smaller more intimate party prior to then.

If you would like to go along then let me know and I can arrange it.  Don’t forget that if you book an overnight date then I will include a Sweety Sybian gift voucher if you would like to try it out.

For the full story on the Sybian, go here

John.

Xplore Sydney – the festival of the art of lust

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While browsing the web last week I came across the website of the Xplore Sydney Festival.

http://sydney.xplore-festival.com

From the home page of the Xplore site …

“Xplore is a three-day event on creative sexuality, BDSM, tantra, ritual and other body practices. Delve into new found pleasures by joining us.

Xplore has its origin in Berlin in 2004. For the first time Xplore will take place in another city: the city of Sydney.”

A lot of people ask me what is the strangest request I have ever had working as a male escort.  Surprisingly the answer is not very strange.  Most people just want good basic sex.

If however you are interested in trying something different (and I have found that a growing number of women are!), indulging a fantasy, stepping outside of your comfort zone and exploring your sexuality further, then I can definitely help.  I have experience in bondage and discipline, role-playing and more.

However, it’s always good to broaden one’s knowledge.  So Xplore Sydney looks like a good opportunity to spend time with people more experienced than I am in a wide range of sexual modes.  Some of the workshops that caught my eye include:

  • BDSM & the Conscious Body
  • Creating a BDSM scene
  • Dressing for Pleasure
  • Electrosex
  • Ethical Sluthood: foundations of nontraditional lifestyles
  • Intellectual Bondage
  • Naked Yoga
  • Playfight
  • Resistance Play
  • Rituals of Intimacy
  • Sensual Dominance and Submission
  • Sluthood Intensive: a place to brainstorm your most challenging poly issues
  • Switching
  • The Dancing Whip: Flogging in Movement
  • The Novice Orgy

There’s a full list on the Xplore website.

Now a lot of this stuff will not be to everyone’s taste, but that’s really the point.  As a male escort for women, I see my job as being the person you can come to when you are ready to explore something new. As such Xplore Sydney provides an opportunity to step outside some boundaries in a safe and comfortable environment.

The organisers tell me that they will be releasing full details of the festival by the end of the year, so I will be checking back in due course to find out about cost and availability.

If you would be interested in attending Xplore Sydney with me (free of charge), please let me know. It would be good to be able to go along with someone and have another viewpoint on the workshop.

It looks like they are also going to have a very interesting after party!

John

Sexpo 3 – Lucid Dream vibrator from Doc Johnson

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About half of everything sold at Sexpo is probably a vibrator of some kind.  I bought a couple to give away.  The first one is the Lucid Dream No. 14 by Doc Johnson.

I was drawn to it for two reasons: the size and the shape.  Many women I know enjoy penetration and this vibrator, at 9.5 inches long is a good size for that.  It’s shape, as you can see looks like it would work well for g-spot stimulation.  And the location of the vibrating bullet means that you would get plenty of powerful stimulation, whether you used it on your clit, or to target your g-spot inside.

The demo unit I played with proved that the vibration is quite strong (for a battery operated unit) and it was relatively quiet too.

The unit is phthalate free and interestingly it claims to be waterproof.  This open up a whole new area for fun in the shower, or bath …

The manufacturers product page can be found here:

http://www.docjohnson.com/index.php/vibrators/lucid-dream-no-14.html

So, I have one Lucid Dream No. 14 and a bottle of Swiss Navy natural lube to go with it to give away to the next person to book an overnight date.

John.

Sunday afternoon fun – Improv. sex swing

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It’s a lazy Sunday afternoon with nothing much to do, so how better to spend it than whipping up an improvised sex swing and having some fun?

Now, if you have no idea of what a sex swing is, it is usually a set of straps or ropes, designed to be suspended from the cieling that hold one partner suspended comfortably off the floor and exposed and positioned for the other partner to administer some serious pleasure.  If your still wondering what I am talking about, then check out this Google image search on sex swing.

If your not handy with tools and don’t have a climbing harness laying around then you can always buy a commercial sex swing.  I came across this one:

http://www.peaksensuality.com/ProductDetails.aspx?productID=1179

quite a good looking sex swing for just under $200.

So, what can you do with a sex swing?

It’s great for giving oral sex to a partner, as they are raised up (in our case, above the bed) allowing easy access without straining your neck or cramping your legs.  It also creates interesting tensions in your body for the person who is suspended which can enhance orgasm.

It’s interesting for penetration, since you can create the strong sensations of thrusting sex with out even having to move, just some very gentle pushing to set up a rythmic swinging motion which does all of the work for you.  Very different to regular sex for both partners.

If you are a voyeur or an exhibitionist then a a sex swing will be right up your alley (so to speak!) as it gives you a great view of your suspended partner.

Ultimately a sex swing is just plain fun.  It’s like nothing you have done before and I highly recommend giving it a try one day!

John.

Sexpo – 2 … The Pussy Shaver kit

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Having a shaved pussy can feel great for sex and oral sex.  Smooth slippery skin … such intimate contact …

But the day to day logistics of shaving can be problematic.  In-grown hairs, shaving cuts etc.

The kit includes a powder brush (bottom left), the long hair trimmer (middle), and the fine hair shaver (top right)

One of the stalls that I saw at Sexpo run by a company caleld VShavers was selling a kit of electric shavers that they call the Pussy Shaver kit.  Basically it has two shavers.  One rather like the shape of a toothbrush for trimming long hair, the other more like a regular shaver for removing stubble and fine hair.  Add some talcum powder as a dry lubricant and you are away.

I don’t have hairy arms, so the demo on me was only just noticeable!  But I watched another gentleman have a patch shaved on a very hairy forearm (much more like a woman’s pubic hair) and the result was excellent.

You can buy the shaver kit online at their website:

http://www.vshavers.com.au/

I bought one of the kits and will give it away as one choice for the next four people to book an overnight date with me.

John.

The Sybian

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Some years ago I came across what was and I think still is considered the ultimate vibrating sex toy for women: The Sybian.

A Sybian (on the right) with accessories and attachments

A Sybian (on the right) with accessories and attachments

This is a Sybian. It’s designed to be sat upon (with your choice of attachment for penetration, or not).  And it has a remote control unit for vibration speed/power.

A woman can use the Sybian on her own, or with the soft cover without the penetration insert (bottom centre in the photo) then it is possible for a couple to have sex doggy style while she receives strong clitoral stimulation.

I mentioned the Sybian to a client the other day (hi Rachael!) and she came across a relatively new site through Google of a Sydney based company that offers Sybian parties and hire.

You can see their site here:

http://sweetsybiansydney.blogspot.com/

Sweet Sybian Sydney run parties just for women and also for couples to try out a Sybian.

John.

Sex in relationships

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If you keep an eye on sexuality related trivia like I do, then you may have noticed a few months ago that a French woman successfully sued her husband (and was awarded AUD$13,500 in damages) because he failed to fulfill his duty as a husband to provide sex to his wife during their marriage.

http://www.smh.com.au/world/strangebuttrue/husband-ordered-to-pay-wife-for-lack-of-sex-20111130-1o5oj.html

The husband appealed the decision and lost.  The ruling and the damages stand.

When I first read about this I was amazed.  This sort of situation is very familar to me (as is the reverse).  But the French legal system has potentially just set a precident that has absolutely huge implications, at least in their own country.

The first thing that comes to mind is: this opens the flood gates for men, unsatisfied with their sex lives to sue their wives for damages.  The second is: what about our right as individuals to say “no”?

The more you pick at this issue the more complex it gets, and I expect that in the short term at least, only the lawyers are going to win from it.

What I do see though is that this ruling (in France at least) puts a spotlight on our relationships and how we treat each other sexually.  I recently made a post offering a Master Class in giving great oral sex to women and I think that this court case confirms my thinking.  Guys: we need to put a lot more effort into pleasing our partners (and being able to give great oral sex is a much appreciated skill).  And it’s not hard to do.  Yes it takes effort and a little thought, but honestly it’s not that hard.

What you need is:

  1. To understand you partner and your own sexuality (what you each like, what you don’t like, what turns you on, what satisfies you)
  2. A few specific skills (how to give oral sex, how give your partner an orgasm, what she likes when it comes time to have penetrative sex)
  3. A plan that delivers what each of you need and want

I have had occassion to discuss these issues with women and couples and often it is relatively easy to find ways to help overcome the hurdles.  A little bit of understanding, a little bit of effort and flexibility can transform the situation.

I am not a sex therapist, or medial professional, but I do have a lot of real world experience, that I am able to share.  I also have the big advantage as a sex worker over a health professional that I am ethically able to demonstrate and directly teach men and women the physical techniques that I use and know.

So, here’s an open invitation to men, women, and couples.  Do you want to improve your sex life?  If you do, then contact me; post a comment below, send me an email, or give me a call and we can talk about what might work for you.  If you don’t think that your partner would want to be involved, don’t worry, we can still talk and find solutions that you can implement on your own.

Lets keep the courts out of our bedrooms and start having better sex!

John.