Good evening from the land of nod …

When I wrote the title to this post it was just a throwaway line because I am feeling a bit sleepy.  However I decided to Google the term out of curiosity, just to see if anything interesting came up.  The first hit was the Wikipedia reference …

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Land_of_Nod

I have to say, I had no idea that The Land of Nod (according to religious tales) is actually on the east of Eden.  Or a small hamlet in the East Riding of Yorkshire in the UK …

The things that you can learn on the Internet!

Well, I hope that everyone has been staying out of the rain and having a good week.  I am off to Melbourne on Saturday, so if you are dropping in to Sexpo in the afternoon, then you might spot me there!  If so, give me a wink, or say hello if your feeling brave!

John.

Prostate cancer and the pill …

There is no denying that the contraceptive pill has been a huge boon to women, finally giving them reliable control over their fertility.  It seems though that there may be an unexpected price to be paid.

New Scientist has an article here:

http://www.newscientist.com/blogs/shortsharpscience/2011/11/contraceptive-pill-linked-to-p.html?DCMP=OTC-rss&nsref=online-news

Discussing a recent study that has showed a correlation between use of the contraceptive pill by women and increased incidences of prostate cancer in men in the same countries.

The reason for the correlation isn’t clear at all, but the researchers did have this to say:

“One hypothesis is that the level of pill use in a population gives an indication of the amount of sexual activity, which has previously been linked to prostate cancer (Epidemiology, DOI: 10.1097/00001648-200201000-00012). But Margel and Fleshner didn’t find a correlation between prostate cancer and the use of other contraceptives such as condoms or vaginal barriers, which might also indicate levels of sexual activity.

The pair favours a different hypothesis. They think that the oestrogen-like chemicals which are by-products of metabolism of the pill pass into the urine and ultimately make their way into the water supply.”

Now as a man, I have to say that is just a little bit scary.  Thankfully the majority of the water that I drink is rain water that I catch myself.  This is far from perfect, but it does means that I won’t be increasing my risk of prostate cancer in that way.

This leads me to my main point: I have never liked the idea of women having to take the pill any more than they absolutely need to.  I also know a number of women for whom the pill has nasty side effects.

So, when my partner and I decided some time ago that we didn’t want to have children, my response was to have a vasectomy.  It was quick, simple (done under local anaesthetic), basically painless and completely effective.  It is also much safer than a tubal ligation for a woman – which is a fairly major piece of surgery.

I am told however that many men don’t like the idea.  Well guys, if you have a family and aren’t planning on more children, then here’s a good reason to have The Snip.  If it means that your partner gets to go off the pill, then I am guessing that we could dramatically reduce the consumption of the pill and therefore reduce the oestrogen-like chemicals in our water supply.

Most men love sex and require it in their relationship.  If that’s the case then we should be taking more of the responsibility for contraception in our relationships.  And perhaps doing ourselves a favour into the bargain.

John.

The science of female orgasm

While browsing New Scientist on-line today I came across two articles about scientific study of female orgasm.  Links below:

There isn’t anything startlingly revelatory in either, but it does make for interesting reading.

For instance, fMRI scans have shown that for some women, stimulation of their nipples causes a response in their brain in the same area that vaginal stimulation activates.  As mentioned in the article, to female researchers this is completely obvious.  However male researchers were surprised (which frankly is not surprising).

One of the main findings is summed up here:

“During orgasm, almost the whole brain becomes highly active”

This is interesting, as it matches what I have been told by women: that during an intense orgasm they are totally transported out of the “here and now”.  It also explains perhaps why, if your mind is being distracted by other things, or not entirely engaged with the experience that it is so hard to achieve orgasm.

If you are interested in the science of orgasm, then these articles are worth a look.

John.

Hotels are strange places

I am currently enduring hotel checking limbo.  Meaning that the earliest that I can check in is 1,00pm, and it’s now only just after 10.30am  I had to drop my bike off early this morning to get it serviced.  So here I am whiling away the time in the hotel bar.

Thankfully I have my laptop and phone, so I am pretty much self-sufficient and able to do “real work” if I choose.

On the off chance that you are in the Rose Hill area and feel like meeting me for a coffee, then send me a text, or give me a call.  I would enjoy some company :-)

John.

New Orleans again …

I have found myself once again at the New Orleans Cafe in Crows Nest on this wet afternoon.  I had quite an enjoyable lunch and thanks to the staff generously allowing me to use a power point, I am not getting down to some work (thanks to my laptop and smartphone – have I ever told you I just love what technology allows us to do!).

Anyway, the actual point of this post was to share some grafiti and other stuff from the Mens Room here.  First up was this grafiti.  When I think of the real New Orlean (although I have never been there personally), I think of food and music … I think this really embodies it!

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I am not sure if this is going to be legible, but I will upload a high res version of the image another day if it’s not.  The message though is this: Never, ever, fuck with the person who prepares your food!  It’s a heart warming reminder for all those under appreciated cooks out there ;-)

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John.

Sleeping alone …

It’s not often that I end up sleeping alone, but tonight is one of those nights.

Hotels on your own are like some sort of twilight zone for the weary traveler … You have everything you need, but a warm body beside you in bed makes it that much less alien.

So, are you sleeping alone tonight? Text me if you feel like making a connection in this sometimes lonely world :-)

John.

Curse this rain …

I don’t often say this, but Curse This Rain!

I am about to get on the bike and head to Sydney and it’s raining.  Not my favourite way to travel in the wet.  My car (which has been at the mechanics for three weeks) is finally home and working, however the fairly major nature of the work done to it means that it is limited to just running around on short trips for a while until it is properly bedded in again.

So, bike it is once again.  The road works around my area don’t help either, making a slow trip slower and meaning that the bike is definitely going to need another wash when I get home!

John.

An interview

About a year ago I was contacted by a woman who is a documentary film maker.  She has been working on a documentary about the male escort industry for women.

She has travelled all over the world to talk to escorts and record their stories.  I have done a number of interview with her in that time and am going to be seeing her again this week.

It has been an interesting experience and I am looking forward to seeing the finished product in due course.

I have always been somewhat sceptical of the media and their approach to the subject of escorting.  There is usually a lot of pre-judgement and pre-conceived ideas about us and the industry and our clients.  I agreed to participate in the end. partly at least because I think anything that raises the profile of male escorts for women is a good thing.  So few women even know that we exist, or that we offer a service that they might enjoy.  A new (Australian) documentary on the subject might be beneficial all round.

There is of course always the risk of prejudices tainting the outcome, but I think that in this case we are on fairly safe ground.

The one thing that I have always thought should be mandatory for someone reporting on our industry is that they actually experience the service that we offer.  After all, to me it seems a lot like trying to describe ice cream without ever having eaten any.  Until you have eaten ice cream it’s all just words.  The experience is something else altogether!

The lady in question declined my offer for first-hand experience unfortunately, so we shall see …

I will keep you posted.

John.

The return of foggy mornings

One of the things that I love about longer days is getting out early for a walk with the dogs.  And this time of year there is the extra pleasure of fog.

I love walking on a foggy morning, everything is damp and dripping, but as you go the fog slowly starts to lift and by the time you are home again the sun is probably peeping over the mountain and burning away the fog, making everything golden …

It’s a great way to start the day.

John.