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I am John Oh, straight male escort for women.  I live in Sydney, Australia and work in Sydney, Canberra, and Melbourne.

I am one of Sydney’s most experienced male escorts for women and offer a service that I believe is second to none.

Book a date with me to experience the luxury of personal intimate attention.  From relaxing talk with a glass of wine, to a meal cooked to order, erotic massage, and of course intense and satisfying sex.

If you would like to see photos of me, please see my photos page.

I am available to travel interstate or internationally if you would like to fly me to you, or have me travel with you on your holiday.

If you would like to chat with me you can drop me an email, send me a text, or give me a call.  I am also happy to chat by Skype if you would like to get to know me better.

John.

Do you want to learn how to kiss?

I was reminded recently that kissing is great and that we should do more of it – and that some people aren’t confident about kissing and so don’t really enjoy it.

Now I was going to write an article about it when I remembered that I have already written an article about kissing – way back in November of 2016 – almost eight years ago!

So, rather than re-inventing the wheel, I’ll just give you a taste (sorry!) and a lik to the original.

“Kissing is cool. How cool? Really cool. Like make your entire day WAY better cool. I have been reminded of this fact twice recently when I was booked to give a Kissing Lesson – yes, seriously, that’s a thing that I can do for you.

Google “benefits of kissing” and you will find a wealth of research and explanations about the effects and benefits of kissing – like boosting seratonin, decreasing cortisol, improving immunity, and much more. So we know for a fact that kissing is genuinely, measurably good for us.”

From: Kissing, sex, and conversation

I can give you lessons in kissing and I can give you a safe, non-judgemental opportunity to practice kissing if you want to be better at kissing and enjoy it more.

John

PSA – Effexor antidepressant side effect

Please note: I am not a doctor and this post does not constitute medical advice! Please talk to your doctor regarding any decisions to take of not take any medication. 

This is a warning for woman who are prescribed the SNRI antidepressant Effexor. One of my clients, a woman 40’s was prescribed Effexor to help manage the symptoms of menopause including hot flushes and mood swings. Her GP didn’t feel that HRT was appropriate, so she prescribed and antidepressant instead.

The manufacturer had studies that showed that it was effective for the symptoms that my client was experiencing. Her GP didn’t tell her what the pottential side effects were.

This client has been seeing me monthly for over eight years now and she never has any trouble reaching orgasm from masturbation or from oral sex. However, within *three days* of starting to take Effexor she lost her ability to reach orgasm through any means!

Now, not everyone responds to a particular drug the same way, so if you are considering taking it then you may not have the same experience. Even if you do find that it has the same effect, it has to be weighed against whatever benefits it may give.

So you need to make the best decision for you and your mental and physical health. I just want women to be aware that this potential side effect exists so that they are not caught out by it unexpectedly and can make better informed health decisions.

John

It’s ok to need to work on things – and to ask me to help

Many women who come to see me are doing so in search of, or needing something beyond just the enjoyment of sex. I received this email recently from a woman who is on her own journey through talk therapy and now physical exploration with me as well.

Hi John,

My psychologist said my root causes are emotion deprivation and abandonment, and the corresponding behavior is control.  Be weighted on [feeling your weight on me] is also a good way to feel safe and connected.

E

I am sharing it (with permission) because I know that there are women out there who, like E, want to have a safe, consensual sexual experience, to try to improve their lives and their enjoyment of sex but just don’t know how to get it. And if they are contemplating seeing a sex worker like me then many women don’t know where to start or what they can tell me.

I have been providing a safe and respectful service to women for over fourteen years now and the answer is that you are always welcome to drop me an email and start a conversation. You don’t need to tell me everything straight away, but you are always welcome to share what you feel is important and that will help us to give you the experience that you want to have.

I’m not judgemental and will always put your safety, pleasure, and wellbeing first

John

Saturday November 2nd availability

My diary is filling up fast for the rest of the year – but I just happen to have a Saturday available due to a booking being moved, that is November 2nd.

If you have been thinking about making a booking soon with me and a Saturday is your preferred day then this is a rare chance to get a Saturday night date on short notice! Drop me an email, or text, or give me a call.

John

Erotica

Sometimes it can be a challenge thinking of new things to write about and post here, so I thought I would expand my repertoire a little and start posting some erotica. So I have created a dedicated page for it.

There is currently one story there and if you think you might enjoy reading about some steamy sex then you could check it out – and just to be clear, this is absolutely NOT SAFE FOR WORK!

An Indecent Proposal – by John Oh

John

Why is online dating SO bad?

At this point it’s a truism to say that online dating is a rolling dumpster fire. Everyone I know who has tried it has (regardless of success or failure) has said that it is awful and they hate it.

On its face online dating *should* work. It exposes us to people we would *never* otherwise have been able to meet – other than by highly unlikely random chance. And there in lies the first problem. Historically (thinking back to the middle of last century) we weren’t that mobile as a society. We tended to live and work in one place most of our lives, even over multiple generations. So the people we met day to day were mostly like us, sharing education, values, experiences etc. That’s not so true today. If you live in a big city like Sydney then you are going to be exposed to a lot more people from very different places with very different life experiences, values, education, and views.

What I have noticed (from living in small towns and big cities) is that in big cities people are far more insular than in small communities. When you live in a small town then everyone feels entitled to be a part of everyone else’s business and it’s difficult to be “private” and anonymous. In a big city however there is an assumption of privacy and anonymity. In my apartment building here in Sydney I literally have no idea who my neighbours are and rarely interact with them (and they change regularly) and are rarely interested in getting to know me. But the last small town I lived in the neighbours came and introduced themselves the day I moved in. The difference is real.

The problem with online dating is that it pierces that barrier of privacy that we assume for ourselves and brings right into our life people who are in absolutely no way “pre-qualified” as being someone we might like and relate to.

That in theory should be a good thing, but I think that in reality it makes for stressful experiences that just aren’t fun most of the time.

Most of us like to think that we are open minded and open to new experiences. But that doesn’t translate to being able to easily find a connection with someone who is very different to us. To be clear, I’m not putting a value judgement on being different from me. It’s just a statement that the more different we are the harder it is to form a connection with another person.

So yes – online dating brings vastly more people into our lives, but many – most – of them are simply never going to be possible prospects for a relationship – or even a friendship.

Then there is the social media affect. Social media is for the most part undeniably toxic. It allows – in fact encourages – and enables the worst kind of behaviour and attitudes toward other people and I don’t believe for a second that a person who one minute is thoughtlessly firing insults at someone on Twitter then flips over to Tinder has just undergone an attitude change and developed a sensitivity towards another group of anonymous people online.

So what is the solution? The only solution that I have been able to come up with is this: do things that you enjoy. Find other people who like doing the same things. Spend time around those people. In time and with luck you may meet someone with similar values and interests who you want to spend more time with.

It’s not a silver bullet to dating I know, but I think that it is the healthiest way to find a partner.

John

We don’t need to miss out on intimacy – and we shouldn’t

When I started writing this article it was with a sense of frustration about what I see happening to women in relationships.  I regularly meet women – through my work as a male escort – who come to me because their partners (who they love and respect, and who’s company they enjoy) won’t give them the intimacy and sex that they want and need.

I am frustrated because these men seem to have no idea what they have to loose.  It takes a lot for any person dedicated to their relationship to take the leap to visit an escort.  It is not something done flippantly.  It’s done because for many women this is the only way they feel they can get the sex that they need without compromising themselves and endangering their relationship.

I really wish that as a society we could have a better conversation about relationships, what they mean, what we want and need from them, and how we can all get what we need to allow us to be happy – as opposed to the assumption that we operate under now that one person can and always will be able to fulfill all of our needs. Something that is clearly not true for the majority of people.

John

Would you like to come exploring with me?

I recently traded in my fabulously fun little sports car for something a bit more “practical” – something I thought I’d never do. As much as that hurt thought my choice of practical transportation – a Subaru Forester was a calculated choice.

My remarkably cheap 2009 Subaru Forester

If you’ve read some of my website, or known me for any length of time then you will know that I am a pretty keen photographer. I love landscape photography, wildlife, macro, and astro photography and Australia is a pretty amazing and beautiful place.

Red Banks at sunset, Kangaroo Island, South Australia

However I’ve never really taken the time to travel in Australia for the purpose of visiting and documenting beautiful places – except once when I visited Lake Mungo in south western NSW, a place that I highly recommend visiting.

So one of my goals with the Forester is to set it up so that I can go travelling and camping in it and see more of this wonderful country of ours.

If you like the idea of a day or two or three exploring some out of the way places with me then let me know. Let’s have an adventure!

The road awaits…

John

A special night out

From a conversation (with permission)…

Hi John are you free Friday night next week? We have a request
Hi Anthea 🙂 Yes I am, what do you have in mind?
Have you ever been to a sex club, do you know a good one?
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