The cashless society is a creeping horror

The Commonwealth Bank here in Australia wants to charge certain customers $3.00 to withdraw cash from their bank accounts under certain circumstances…

“the account also includes an “assisted withdrawal fee”, where customers taking money out at bank branches, post offices or by phone are charged $3 per withdrawal”

Banks slapping exorbitant fees on transactions is nothing new, but this particular move just highlights how banks hatecash and don’t want to have to deal with it.

I’ve written before (in 2016) about how important cash is to sex workers and our clients:

https://john-oh-escort.com/2016/12/14/why-my-clients-need-cash/

And while the situation has improved here in Australia with our OSKO system that enables effectively instant transfers, it’s worth saying it again – cash is important to a society and especially to sex workers and our clients. That fact has only been emphasised by the 12 hour network outage experienced by Optus (an Australian telecoms provider) in early November of 2023. That outage was cause by a software error that took down Optus’ routers and prevented any internet traffic and phone calls on their network.

In that time, if you were an Optus customer or your business relied on Optus services to take and make payments then you were out of luck. And if you had no cash, then you could literally have been left stranded.

Cash is difficult and expensive for banks to handle. Governments hate it because it makes it harder for them to collect taxes. But cash also makes our civilisation more robust. It gives us a backup method of paying for and being paid when the electronic channels don’t work – be that because of societal stigma, software failure, or natural disaster.

Cash – always works.

We allow big businesses and our government to do away with cash at our peril. And believe me when I say that the will do so if they possibly can. So vote for cash – just take a bit out of the ATM every week to remind the banks that we still want and need cash (but remember to check for exorbitant withdrawal fees first!)

John

I’m sorry – it had to go!

Well, it’s been a few years now of keeping my hair “long”.

I like it, most people I meet seem to like it that way too – but I’m really sorry, it’s time to go! The summer heat is really starting to bite and it’s just way too hot with longer curly hair.

When I’m not in Sydney working as a male escort, I’m down south helping people build dreams and fix up their properties. In short I spend a lot of time outdoors and summer is prime time to be doing that work. That also means I’m covered up – long pants, long sleeve shirt, and most importantly and wide brimmed hat.

A thick top of curly hair added to all of that means that hot days are really hard.

So it’s time for a hair cut!

John

Would you like to have your own Grand Day Out?

I made a short film way back in 2016 of a visit to the beach – titled A Grand Day Out.

With the warm weather here I was thinking about the beach and adventures…

If you need a break after this long strange years and would like to take some time of with me for company, then drop me a line.

We can go to the beach, or a walk in the Blue Mountains (The Grand Canyon hike is excellent), or just a cafe with good food, cold drinks, and a view…

What’s your idea of a grand day out?

WARNING
this short film contains nudity and is NOT SAFE FOR WORK

John

PSA for women – yes we can kiss!

It’s something of a trope that “sex workers don’t kiss because it’s too intimate”. I guess that came about from Pretty Woman.

I’ve never really understood it myself. How is kissing more “intimate” than having penetrative sex? Or even oral sex? It’s just kissing – literally something that you can do in public and barely generate a look from passers by.

But it’s a persistent idea and one that some women who come to see me aren’t sure about. So I’d like to set the record straight – yes we can kiss! (Because kissing is fabulous and sexy and it really wouldn’t be sex without it).

John

Well done Belgium!

Way back in 1995 New South Wales became the first jurisdiction in the world to decriminalise sex work. I’m proud that my home state was so advanced – even if it was done in response to the dire police corruption that the criminalisation of commercial sex caused.

More states and territories in Australia have followed suit and our New Zealand cousins as well.

I have been able to work in this industry without legal risk for my entire fourteen years as a male sex worker for women – and my clients have been able to enjoy my services with the same confidence. A fact that I am eternally grateful for.

The rest of the world though, is not so lucky. Sex work and sex workers, thanks to religious fundamentalism, social conservatism, and a generous dose of hypocrisy still makes workers and clients pariahs.

So I was delighted to stumble across this article today:

https://www.npr.org/2024/12/01/nx-s1-5212435/belgium-sex-workers-labor-protections-rights-first

I wasn’t aware of this, but back in 2022 Belgium also decriminalised sex work. Shout out to the Belgians! That’s great work.

But it gets better. They have now enshrined laws that give sex workers (employed by brothels for instance) the protections and benefits that any other worker enjoys – things like sick leave, paid maternity leave and pensions. They also enshrine a workers right to say “no” and to set the conditions of their service with a client.

We don’t have the same level of protection here in Australia, but this is part of the nature of social change. It takes time and the steps tend to be modest. So NSW as the first jurisdiction to decriminalise sex work could only go “so far”. But this in turn sets a bar for every jurisdiction that follows New South Wales down the decriminalisation path – and more importantly, it gives them permission to go just as far, and a little bit further! Which is what Belgium has done.

In time New South Wales will look at Belgium and see an oportunity to improve our own laws. And I would fully expect that they will take a step further than Belgium. Perhaps more robust anti-discrimination protection for sex workers could make it onto the books.

Anyway, it may not effect us here in Australia, but I am deeply glad to see that sex workers – and clients – in Belgium now have the protections and rights that all workers deserve.

John

ShortTake – Types of sex work – seven part series

There are three main forms of sex work regulation. This series of short videos gives you an introduction to what they are and how they work.

Episodes are released one day at a time and I will update this post each day.

Part 1 of 7:

Part 2 of 7:

Part 3 of 7

Part 4 of 7

Part 5 of 7

Part 6 of 7

Part 7 of 7

If there is a topic that you would like me to cover, please let me know!

John

ShortTakes – a series of short educational films about sex work

Several years ago (back in 2018) I made a series of short films discussing sex work and the various legal, ethical, and practical issues surrounding it. For a number of reasons I ended up taking those films down, but I think it’s time that they received another airing.

So for the next few few months I will be publishing them on YouTube and linking them here on my blog. They will also be collated on my Sex work ShortTakes page

Hopefully you will find them interesting and informative.

I haven’t made any new films recently – so if there is a topic that I haven’t already covered that you would like to hear about please feel free to drop me a comment about it and I’ll see what I can do.

John

A new photo to share…

Many years ago I came across a photographer who took amazing self portraits. I’ve always thought “I could do that too”. But you know how things go. Life is busy, bills need to be paid, work gets in the way of the creative process…

In short, I never really made the time.

Until today. I pulled out the trusty Canon 1DXii with my favourite lens, popped it on the tripod, connected the remote shutter/interval timer and took some photos.

Well. I wasn’t really expecting too much from this first real foray into self portraiture. It’s a difficult thing to do as you have no direction, no way to frame and preview the shot, you have to visualise the pose and how it will look, then enact it. So much to think about and play with that would be so much easier if someone else was taking the photo…

But I was honestly very pleasantly surprised! I think this is one of the best photos that I have ever taken. But I’ll let you be the judge.

John

Being naked changes us

Clothing is possibly one of the most significant social influences in our societies.  You can be openly gay, or atheist or religious, or socialist, or conservative in public and it’s all acceptable (in Australia at least) – protected even.  But you can’t be naked in public.

France Keyser for The New York Times

Think about that.

Intentional nudity in public is literally illegal, while espousing extreme political or religious views is not.

I will add at this point that:

“It’s not an offence to be naked in public in England and Wales but it does become an offence if it can be proved the person stripped off with the intention to upset and shock. The complainant has to prove this.”

This is more than a little surprising for a relatively conservative society, so well done them.  It’s not without it’s problems though as Stephen Gough “The Naked Rambler” has discovered.  He has walked from Lands End to John O’Groats twice – naked.  In doing so he’s been arrested and even jailed multiple time.  So it’s an imperfect law, imperfectly applied.

Anyway, all of that, I think, goes to the main point here. Nudity is a central taboo in the vast majority of our societies – even when it is literally legal.

I was recently sent a link to an article (thank you Denise):

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/11/27/arts/design/naturism-exhibition-naked-mucem-marseille.html?unlocked_article_code=1.dk4.Krv_.GJLLt5TAlReM&smid=url-share

about an exhibition at the Museum of the Civilizations of Europe and the Mediterranean in France dedicated to the history of social nudity.  On five nights during its run the visitors are all naked.

We could look at this as a marketing stunt, but I see something else here.

I have had the experience on several occasions in my life to be lounging around with a mixed group of people, naked. Here’s what I have observed:

Loud people become less loud.
Quiet people speak up.
Social pressures seem to evaporate.
There is much more of a sense of equality.
People seem to be more respectful of each other.

So I can absolutely see how interacting with a sociological study of nudity with a group of naked people would give a different experience – and perhaps insight into – “naturalism” and nudity in public.

Clothing lets us project an image. Clothing is a mask that we wear to make a statement – to project authority, sexuality (ironically), demonstrate status, wealth, or “piety”, and many other things. It has practical applications for protection of course but even when practicality isn’t an issue we still choose to wear clothes.

Nudity takes away much of our ability to project an image to those around us and while being naked all of the time is impractical, I do think that as a society we would benefit from the humility that I observe comes with nudity.

John

My first invitation to participate in a podcast

I was recently invited to participate in the Curveball Podcast (run by Beth Armstrong) with two other straight male sex workers.

We met up today in Sydney at their recording studio and spent a few hours talking about the industry, our experiences, and more. It was a fun interview and great to spend a bit of time with some peers who are just as passionate and dedicated to the industry and the work as I am.

It will be a while before it’s edited and released, but I’ll be sure to post a link when it’s ready!

John