The Sydney Skinny – 2015

Well, the Sydney Skinny has been and gone for another year!
I swam in the fifth wave (I think) this year, which (totally accidentally) turned out to be the Body Image group.  It somehow seems appropriate given “me”.  Anyway, it was, as with last year, a fun group of people who all stripped off on the beach and swam either 900, or 300 meters.
Sydney Skinny 2015

I found the swim a lot easier than last year, but it was still a lot harder than I expected.  There was a reasonable amount of chop and some bigger waves (of perhaps 50cms) from ferries or other boats.  My main problem was that I actually started to feel sea sick about one third of the way through!  I was trying to move with the waves, rather than bashing through them and it turned out to be a pretty sickening rythm.

So, next year I am thinking that I need to do more open water swimming in preparation.

Anyway, it was a fun experience yet again and great to see so many people getting out and enjoying the sunshine, the water, and the freedom of being nude!

John.

 

There is another Sydney…

We think that we know the places that we live.  They are familiar to us by site, sound, smell, and feel.  But (if you are lucky) every now and then you come across a side of your home town that you have never seen before, and your eyes are opened…

I was lucky enough to be taken to visit a very unusual building.  It is almost in the CBD of Sydney, but the owners (whoever they are!) don’t seem to care about it.  It is home to a mix of people, but it is as far from your average apartment building as you could imagine, half squat, half artists commune, half… something else (yes, that’s three halves, but it seems strangely appropriate for this place).

The roof of the building has become an amazing art space for graffiti.  Uncontrolled, no rules, yet civilised in a manner that society at large may be uncomfortable with.  Don’t forget to click on each image to see them full size and enjoy the photos.

graffiti 1

graffit 2 John.

A bit of hard work…

Ok, it’s an excuse to post a photo with no top on, but what they heck, I’ll do it anyway.

I am working on a project to build a large cupboard at the moment and it was pretty hot last week, so no shirt!  Ripping a 2.4 meter long sheet of 18mm thick ply wood into two pieces was really hard work by hand, but prefer to use hand tools.  Reliable, simple, and a skill that I think is worth having.  By contrast, cutting these shelves was easy going.

cutting woodJohn.

Christmas and a thank you

It’s always a surprise when Christmas rolls around again.  It’s out there in the future, then it’s right up close and suddenly everything is tinsel, presents, food, parties, and holidays.  It’s also time to look back and take some stock.

This year has had some challenges for me (including back trouble that cost me almost two months of mobility).  But I have also had the chance to meet many new people and to continue to enjoy the company of many more.

I want to say thank you to everyone.  It is a pleasure and an honor to know you and your support and trust is greatly appreciated.  I have the best job in the world and I will continue to do my best to live up to that.

I hope that everyone has a great Christmas and New Year.  I am taking a couple of weeks off for a serious rest, but I am looking forward to getting back to work in January.

John.

Rain!

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It’s been raining on and off most of the day here. The garden is loving it! And both of the water tanks are just about full. A good respite and preparation for a long hot summer to come.

John.

The life erotic

The year once more is escaping us and I find that I have been away from my blog for far too long. It is the problem with a busy life that time for writing such as this – with its own importance – can be limited.

I look back now on many years in my profession with more clarity about the world and the human condition, and how I may be of service.

I enjoy my work as a male escort for women more than any other job I have ever had. A statement that at face value (given the assumptions that society makes about men and their appetite for sex) may seem obvious. And it is true that I enjoy sex and the female form deeply. However it goes much further than that.

To the sense of satisfaction that comes from helping a woman, who thought that she could never enjoy intimacy again, to realise that she is still a sexual being, who can enjoy her body and that of a partner. Or for the women who come to me from relationships that, while fulfilling in many ways, lack the joy of sex that makes life so much sweeter to live. Seeing confidence and happiness blossom, fear and pain fade away to be replace by transitory yet lasting pleasure that brings an understanding of self worth.

All of this and more, like the sweetness of a smile when all is done and rest is what is needed, to be held and to hold. No words required.

It comes of course with a cost to me as well. Of time away from home and my partner, of travel in weather as variable as one can expect in these times. But it is a job that I choose to do and while I may take more time for myself one day, it’s not a job that I want to stop doing. As long as I can give something of value then I wish to continue to do so.

John.

Music 2

Today has been an interesting day.  Firstly I had an appointment with a new physio about an ongoing issue that I have with my lower back.  Being 6’2″ is a blessing and a curse.  But I think that we might have finally found the right combination of stretching and exercises to resolve the problem.  The one weird thing I have noticed over the years is that sex makes lower back pain vanish completely (at least for a while!).

So, as part of my “core” strength building program to help support my back, I went to the pool here at Olympic Park and swam some laps.  Not the three kilometres I would once have done, but I was happy with the outcome.  Tomorrow I will swim again and go a bit further.  I came home from that feeling like I had no bones in my body.  That delightful feeling of being completely exhausted physically and floppy all over.

So, having had a quiet evening (and iTunes taking forever to download a movie on my very slow ADSL2 internet connection) I decided to pick up the guitar and practice some of the tunes I have been learning.  Not having a piano down here in the apartment means that I have to wait until I go home again to continue that adventure and that’s not going to happen for another week or two until my back is in better shape.  It’s one of the downsides of motorcycles.  They are hard on your back if it’s not in great shape.

So, one hour and totally worn out fingers later I am on my way to being able to play the first line of Beethoven’s Tempest Sonata Movement 3 and the most excellent riff from Dire Straights Sultans of Swing.  The only downside: my left hand fingertips (which are all numb and compressed from holding down guitar strings) now fail to work reliably on my laptop track pad for some weird reason!

Anyway, my musical adventures continue and I am having real fun with them.  One day soon I may even be able to play a full song.

John.

Music

I have never had a happy relationship with playing music.  Like most Australian children in the 70’s, the first instrument I picked up at school was a recorder.  I didn’t learn to play it well and eventually moving on to clarinet and guitar never helped!  Although I will say that I had a brief stint with the xylophone that was outstanding at around age 8!

Xylophone aside I just never managed to connect with playing music.  I was similarly handicapped when it came to mathematics.  Both were banes of my childhood.  I really wanted to be good at both, but unlike friends and family around me I didn’t have that musical knack, or intuition, or connection that they had.

Years passed.

Now, here I am at age 42 and the music is calling me!  Have you ever had that feeling of looking at something and thinking: “I know I can do that!”.  I bought an acoustic guitar some time ago and have enjoyed tinkering and teaching myself how to play it – and I genuinely feel that there is now something different in my brain, because for the first time I genuinely “feel” the music.  Guitar is still proving a significant challenge and one that I will continue working on, because guitar is such a great instrument to be able to play.  It’s portable, sounds great on its own and is always popular.

My new discovery though is that I love piano.  If you have read previous posts you will know that my partner has a piano (I made a post here about tuning the one key that was out of tune).  So two days ago I sat down and started learning to play the very beautiful classical piece of music (Beethoven’s Tempest 3rd movement) that featured in the remake of the movie Total Recall.  It’s a stupendous challenge for someone who A. has never played piano and B. isn’t great an patting their head while rubbing their tummy!  However I have discovered that I can still read music fairly well (even if I can’t make my fingers do what the notes say – yet!).  The result is that with about four sessions of practice over two days, I can basically play the first line and a half.

I am under no illusions that what I am doing is any good really, but I just LOVE being able to sit down in front of a piano and produce from it, something that actually sounds like real music.  It is a fabulous experience that makes life a richer and more enjoyable thing to live.  As I write this, my partner is playing the theme song from the movie Amelie (by the composer Yann Tiersen) in the living room (she is much, much better than I am), filling the house with music that is beautiful and of her own making, imperfections, hesitations and all.

There is something about live music and the people who can create it that has always captured me.  From seeing cover bands in Melbourne pubs when I was at university to an individual sitting down at the public pianos that occasionally get placed around Circular Quay in Sydney.  It has been one of my lifelong desires to join those ranks.  Even at this late stage in my life (relatively speaking) perhaps it’s possible.

I could segue into something about sex here and perhaps I should.  A comparison between learning a new skill like playing an instrument and learning about sex and what we can enjoy with our bodies.  I do think that it’s a fair comparison, since most of us never get the chance to learn about sex, we just go along with the general assumption that it is something that just happens and you don’t need to learn or practice.

Well, like any instrument, the human body needs to be tuned and the skills practised if you want to create really beautiful music.

John.

Thwarted!

I have been a cyclist of varying degrees of fitness for most of my life, but in recent years, I haven’t ridden as much as I would like to.  Other exercise, like Pilates, free weights, walking, and interval sprints have been the norm.

But today I felt like cycling.  So, seizing the moment I donned the appropriate clothing and headed for the garage.  Only to find that some inconsiderate person had managed to steal the frame pump off my bike which was locked up inside my security cage in the garage!  Disappointing doesn’t even begin to describe the feeling.

It is upsetting to have stuff that you have worked hard to buy stolen from you.  But it’s worse having good habits like exercise interrupted.  Things can be replaced, but that ride is lost to me forever.

Thankfully I was able to walk and do some interval sprints instead, so I got my exercise for the day, but I was really looking forward to going for a roll.

John.