Today I am attending the second day of the Xplore Festival. Its been a lot of fun so far, but I was dissapointed to miss the first day.
So far today I have done a workshop on Dirty Talk. Very entertaining, and gave me lots to think about.
The second session was on Domination and Submission and Tantra. I dont get into spirituality, but the breathing and connecting with another person was good.
John.
I have just had a quick look at the download statistics for my movie Ten Minute To Orgasm. What can I say but OH WOW.
In the seven days since I posted the video it has been downloaded over 100,000 times.
That is simply stupendous, I am lost for words …
My website traffic has gone up by more than an order of magnitude. Lucky the server can handle it.
I think that I will just say “thank you” and leave it at that.
John.
If you follow my blog then you may have seen that a Melbourne based director and producer of porn for women (Ms Naugthy) recently invited me to participate in a movie that she was shooting. I made a post about the offer and had quite a lot of discussion with my readers and clients.
The consensus was that I should not participate, but there was also strong support for me doing something that I had full control over and could post on my site. The result is that I recently filmed a short (10 minute) movie.
You also download the movie. Right click this link and choose “Save link as”: Movie – Ten minutes to orgasm
I wanted to make something that was relevant to me and the service that I offer, so filming an erotic massage seemed like the ideal starting point. As we worked on it we both realised that stopping at just the massage would be leaving the other half of the story untold. So we continued filming as I gave Shelly (who was by now very aroused) oral sex until she reached orgasm. I think that the result is quite beautiful and also quite arousing.
This movie was an experiment to see what was possible with two people and digital video camera. As a result most of the shots are stationary, made using the camera on a tripod. It is surprising I think what you can achieve with such a simple setup. It certainly exceeded my expectations.
We had the use of a rather nice serviced apartment in the CBD for the day and the diffuse light streaming in through the curtains made for some beautiful contrasts and play of light and shadow over soft curves.
It amazes me just how easy it is, with all of the tools that we have available to us, to make really good quality movies that can be shared so easily over the Internet. I hope you like the result and look forward to your comments.
I intend to make more movies in the future and would like to show real women having real enjoyment (like Shelly did in this movie). If you would like to work with me (whether anonymously, or openly) feel free to let me know.
John.
Those of you who have browsed my Links and erotic resources for women page (under the Sexuality menu above) would be familiar with Ms Naughty and her various sex positive porn websites for women.
Ms Naughty is based in Melbourne and has been publishing and now creating erotica specifically for women for a number of years. Some time ago we swapped site links in the spirit of better Google ranking and have been chatting on and off ever since.
I dropped Ms Naughty a line recently and in her reply she mentioned that she is working on shooting an adult movie here in Australia and then asked if I would be interested in working with her. Specifically, putting my body on the line and acting in a shoot for one of her movies.
Firstly let me say thank you Ms Naughty! It’s a real compliment that you feel I have what it takes. We aren’t talking about the poorly directed and shot porn that streams out of the US and Europe in such vast quantities these days, but something more subtle, more sophisticated and hopefully altogether more erotic and arousing. So to be invited to be a part of that is pleasing.
The question now is: should I do it? One concern that springs to mind is that I risk picking up the label of “porn star”. And I don’t know if that sits well with who I am.
My partner S responded by suggesting that I write this blog post and pose the question to you my readers. What do you think? Should I do it? Do you think that it would be a positive thing for me to do, or a negative thing?
I don’t like the idea of “managing” my “image”. In fact I don’t like the idea of having an image full stop, but there are always perceptions. I have worked long and hard to show the world who I am and what I value and I don’t like the idea of having that distorted by a label that may not be accurate.
On the other hand, it is people like Ms Naughty who are out there working hard to change erotica, to make it into something more than the mass porn industry creates. And I firmly believe that is a cause worth supporting …
So I have a dilemma. Do I put my body and reputation on the line, or do I decline the invitation?
What do you think? Would you like to see me in well made erotica?
John.
While browsing the web last week I came across the website of the Xplore Sydney Festival.
http://sydney.xplore-festival.com
From the home page of the Xplore site …
“Xplore is a three-day event on creative sexuality, BDSM, tantra, ritual and other body practices. Delve into new found pleasures by joining us.
Xplore has its origin in Berlin in 2004. For the first time Xplore will take place in another city: the city of Sydney.”
A lot of people ask me what is the strangest request I have ever had working as a male escort. Surprisingly the answer is not very strange. Most people just want good basic sex.
If however you are interested in trying something different (and I have found that a growing number of women are!), indulging a fantasy, stepping outside of your comfort zone and exploring your sexuality further, then I can definitely help. I have experience in bondage and discipline, role-playing and more.
However, it’s always good to broaden one’s knowledge. So Xplore Sydney looks like a good opportunity to spend time with people more experienced than I am in a wide range of sexual modes. Some of the workshops that caught my eye include:
There’s a full list on the Xplore website.
Now a lot of this stuff will not be to everyone’s taste, but that’s really the point. As a male escort for women, I see my job as being the person you can come to when you are ready to explore something new. As such Xplore Sydney provides an opportunity to step outside some boundaries in a safe and comfortable environment.
The organisers tell me that they will be releasing full details of the festival by the end of the year, so I will be checking back in due course to find out about cost and availability.
If you would be interested in attending Xplore Sydney with me (free of charge), please let me know. It would be good to be able to go along with someone and have another viewpoint on the workshop.
It looks like they are also going to have a very interesting after party!
John
If you keep an eye on sexuality related trivia like I do, then you may have noticed a few months ago that a French woman successfully sued her husband (and was awarded AUD$13,500 in damages) because he failed to fulfill his duty as a husband to provide sex to his wife during their marriage.
The husband appealed the decision and lost. The ruling and the damages stand.
When I first read about this I was amazed. This sort of situation is very familar to me (as is the reverse). But the French legal system has potentially just set a precident that has absolutely huge implications, at least in their own country.
The first thing that comes to mind is: this opens the flood gates for men, unsatisfied with their sex lives to sue their wives for damages. The second is: what about our right as individuals to say “no”?
The more you pick at this issue the more complex it gets, and I expect that in the short term at least, only the lawyers are going to win from it.
What I do see though is that this ruling (in France at least) puts a spotlight on our relationships and how we treat each other sexually. I recently made a post offering a Master Class in giving great oral sex to women and I think that this court case confirms my thinking. Guys: we need to put a lot more effort into pleasing our partners (and being able to give great oral sex is a much appreciated skill). And it’s not hard to do. Yes it takes effort and a little thought, but honestly it’s not that hard.
What you need is:
I have had occassion to discuss these issues with women and couples and often it is relatively easy to find ways to help overcome the hurdles. A little bit of understanding, a little bit of effort and flexibility can transform the situation.
I am not a sex therapist, or medial professional, but I do have a lot of real world experience, that I am able to share. I also have the big advantage as a sex worker over a health professional that I am ethically able to demonstrate and directly teach men and women the physical techniques that I use and know.
So, here’s an open invitation to men, women, and couples. Do you want to improve your sex life? If you do, then contact me; post a comment below, send me an email, or give me a call and we can talk about what might work for you. If you don’t think that your partner would want to be involved, don’t worry, we can still talk and find solutions that you can implement on your own.
Lets keep the courts out of our bedrooms and start having better sex!
John.
I only made a short visit in to Sexpo on Saturday as the day was compressed by a delayed flight from Sydney and having a big evening planned, so I went back again on Sunday.
If you have never been to Sexpo, here’s a short run down …
Mostly Sexpo is a chance for anyone who does “stuff” in the “adult industry” to show off to the public over four days. On top of that, there is an ongoing stage show of adult oriented acts (like the Tokio Shock Boys, male and female strippers, audience participation and more) and curiously this time they had a motorcycle stunt show … not quite sure how that fits, but I guess that it appeals to the main audience demographic! Granted they did some pretty impressive stuff, but it’s not exactly about sex.
Some of the stands on display included:
I am sure to have missed out on some stuff, but that gives you a good overview. One thing that seemed quite abscent though were retailers of DVDs. I may have just overlooked them, but I don’t think so. I expect that the Internet is busy destroying the DVD delivery business model, so perhaps that is the reason.
Both Saturday and Sunday when I visited were absolutely packed. Heaps of people, in equal numbers for male and female. Average age was probably around thirty.
I will wrap this post up now. I have a bunch of toys and products to review and give away, so I will get on with that next and give you more details and photos!
John.
Voyeurism
I have always been a voyeur at heart. I love the female form, the way a woman’s body looks when she moves, or reclines … the way a couple’s bodies look together …
But the act of looking goes beyond the observer’s pleasure. As the owner of the club in Shortbus said: “voyeurism is participation (darling)”. Just as in physics where the “Observer Effect” means that the act of observation will make changes to the phenomenon being observed, so too when we look we influence those who we observe.
For many people, being watched in a sexual context is as arousing for them as it may be for the observer. This is something that I quite enjoy myself. If I am having a shower, for instance when I am on a date, then I will invite you to watch. Some people love it and I quite enjoy being seen.
Voyeurism can be much more intimate too. Australian Crawl said in their song Beautiful People … “they won’t admit it, but they make love in the dark”. Sex with the lights off has it’s own pleasures (take away the sense of sight and and your mind will heighten all of your other senses to compensate), but personally I think that it’s a good thing to keep at least a little light when making love. Site is our strongest sense and we rely on it so thoroughly in every other aspect of day to day life that it is a shame to miss out on it during sex.
I find the combination of seeing as well as feeling to be extremely arousing. It’s also a very intimate way of communicating with your lover … when you can see them drinking in the sight of you and enjoying it, then it’s hard not to feel good about yourself.
So don’t be shy about your body ladies (and men). I know that many of you feel that you are less than perfect and perhaps not so confident to show off for your partner, but take it from me: men love looking at women. And when it comes to great sex, a woman who is confident enough to show off her body a little to her lover is going to please him greatly. Confidence is sexy.
John.
As promised I have started recording Fanny Hill from the beginning. I will apologise for the less than perfect rendition, I am still finding my stride when it comes to reading out loud, and to correctly interpreting some of the more arcane aspects of Victorian language and phraseology!
In case you missed my first Podcast post here is some background information …
Fanny Hill by John Cleland – a piece of erotic fiction written in 1748.
Scene from chapter eight of Fanny Hill
From the Wikipedia entry for Fanny Hill:
“Memoirs of a Woman of Pleasure (popularly known as Fanny Hill) is an erotic novel by John Cleland first published in England in 1748. Written while the author was in debtor’s prison in London, it is considered “the first original English prose pornography, and the first pornography to use the form of the novel.” One of the most prosecuted and banned books in history”
How could I resist?
It seemed like a great way to let you hear my voice, and if you like it enough (please let me know with a comment below!), then I may just podcast the entire story.
Fanny Hill – Episode 1 – M4A format for iPhone, iPod etc
or
Fanny Hill – Episode 1 – MP3 format for other devices
You can subscribe to my podcast feed here:
http://john-oh-escort.com/category/podcasts/feed/
John.
On the recommendation of a friend (thanks M!) I bought a copy of the movie Shortbus by John Cameron Mitchell last week (on eBay). It arrived in the mail today, so I sat down with my partner after lunch to watch it.
Shortbus is rated 18+, it is a funny, entertaining movie about a couples councilor and her husband, a gay couple, a dominatrix, a voyeur, and the former major of New York! It also has more actual real sex (straight, gay, lesbian, masturbation, domination and more) than I have ever seen outside of something rated XXX.
It’s not a movie of sex with a storyline thrown in as an excuse for the sex. It’s a well written, directed, and produced movie that doesn’t just fade to black when people do what they actually do in real life. And that, for me, makes the sex even more interesting.
It left us both thinking about sex and sexuality, about how people relate to each other, and how they love and fuck. It is a great story and worth watching.
If you would like to borrow my copy of Shortbus, just drop me an email and I will see if I can send it to you. Otherwise you can get your own on eBay for $25 or so. It’s worth having in your (private) DVD library!
John.