Voyeurism

I have always been a voyeur at heart.  I love the female form, the way a woman’s body looks when she moves, or reclines … the way a couple’s bodies look together …

But the act of looking goes beyond the observer’s pleasure.  As the owner of the club in Shortbus said: “voyeurism is participation (darling)”.  Just as in physics where the “Observer Effect” means that the act of observation will make changes to the phenomenon being observed, so too when we look we influence those who we observe.

For many people, being watched in a sexual context is as arousing for them as it may be for the observer.  This is something that I quite enjoy myself.  If I am having a shower, for instance when I am on a date, then I will invite you to watch.  Some people love it and I quite enjoy being seen.

Voyeurism can be much more intimate too.  Australian Crawl said in their song Beautiful People … “they won’t admit it, but they make love in the dark”.  Sex with the lights off has it’s own pleasures (take away the sense of sight and and your mind will heighten all of your other senses to compensate), but personally I think that it’s a good thing to keep at least a little light when making love.  Site is our strongest sense and we rely on it so thoroughly in every other aspect of day to day life that it is a shame to miss out on it during sex.

I find the combination of seeing as well as feeling to be extremely arousing.  It’s also a very intimate way of communicating with your lover … when you can see them drinking in the sight of you and enjoying it, then it’s hard not to feel good about yourself.

So don’t be shy about your body ladies (and men).  I know that many of you feel that you are less than perfect and perhaps not so confident to show off for your partner, but take it from me: men love looking at women.  And when it comes to great sex, a woman who is confident enough to show off her body a little to her lover is going to please him greatly.  Confidence is sexy.

John.