About five weeks ago I made the decision that I needed to lose some weight. This is the first time in my life that I have felt the need to deliberately “diet”.  I have always had a fairly high metabolism, so reversing weight gain has only ever really required some more exercise and eating less.  That’s not the case any more, so I set about finding the “right way” to lose weight for me.

My starting point has been that I know that anything with carbohydrates in it (things like bread, rice, potatoes, fruit, milk – many of the most delicious things!) are dynamite for me and key to my recent weight gain.  So cutting out those things was the logical starting point.

What I put together in the end was a diet that is based on “ketogenic” principals – eliminating carbohydrates, eating moderate amounts of protein, and eating various fats for energy (avocado, olive oil, butter, cream, eggs, cheese, and fat that comes with meat).

I have combined that with intermittent fasting, initially having two meals a day, at 1.00pm and 5.00pm to give me a twenty hour fast which people who recommend fasting say is the minimum time required to get a benefit from fasting.

After a week I discovered that I really didn’t need the second meal, so I cut it down to just a snack.  I now eat one meal a day – and because of the fasting my stomach has shrunk somewhat and the one meal I do eat is smaller than when I started this process.

On the advice of the people who promote keto style diets I have been drinking extra water, supplementing electrolytes, vitamins, and magnesium.  

And it’s all going very well I have to say.  I don’t get hungry between meals.  My grocery bill is less than *half* what it used to be (a bonus that I wasn’t expecting).  And best of all – I have been losing weight: around seven kilograms in five weeks.

Now I don’t really care about keto diet puritanism and I have eaten out at least once or twice a week in that time, while still trying to avoid carbs, but not being fanatical about it – and I have still lost weight.

What I see as the benefit of keto style dieting is this: it lets you eat a *lot* less and supports intermittent fasting without getting hungry.  And that I think is the key – at the end of the day my calorie intake is below even my base metabolic rate – and I have been exercising on top of that as well, so my body is burning my stores of fat to make up the shortfall.  I can see the difference already – even if I can’t feel it when I’m doing chin-ups! (Yet).

So to anyone who is unhappy with their weight and would like to change it and are looking for a solution, I would highly recommend trying a keto style diet.  Note: I’m not a doctor or nutritionist, so please research keto diets and get professional advice to decide if it suits and is appropriate for you.

On this note I have been told that keto dieting may not be appropriate for women going through menopause, so as I said above, professional advice is recommended!

I will be continuing on this journey for several more kilograms yet and I will report back along the way.

John

There are few times of the year in Sydney that are as fabulous as autumn. Mild weather, sunshine without the baking heat! If you are thinking of visiting – now is the time.

I am making the most of it and taking a ride around Rhodes and the Parramatta River.

John. 

Those of you who have browsed my Links and erotic resources for women page (under the Sexuality menu above) would be familiar with Ms Naughty and her various sex positive porn websites for women.

Ms Naughty is based in Melbourne and has been publishing and now creating erotica specifically for women for a number of years.  Some time ago we swapped site links in the spirit of better Google ranking and have been chatting on and off ever since.

I dropped Ms Naughty a line recently and in her reply she mentioned that she is working on shooting an adult movie here in Australia and then asked if I would be interested in working with her. Specifically, putting my body on the line and acting in a shoot for one of her movies.

Firstly let me say thank you Ms Naughty!  It’s a real compliment that you feel I have what it takes.  We aren’t talking about the poorly directed and shot porn that streams out of the US and Europe in such vast quantities these days, but something more subtle, more sophisticated and hopefully altogether more erotic and arousing.  So to be invited to be a part of that is pleasing.

The question now is: should I do it?  One concern that springs to mind is that I risk picking up the label of “porn star”. And I don’t know if that sits well with who I am.

My partner S responded by suggesting that I write this blog post and pose the question to you my readers.  What do you think?  Should I do it?  Do you think that it would be a positive thing for me to do, or a negative thing?

I don’t like the idea of “managing” my “image”. In fact I don’t like the idea of having an image full stop, but there are always perceptions.  I have worked long and hard to show the world who I am and what I value and I don’t like the idea of having that distorted by a label that may not be accurate.

On the other hand, it is people like Ms Naughty who are out there working hard to change erotica, to make it into something more than the mass porn industry creates.  And I firmly believe that is a cause worth supporting …

So I have a dilemma.  Do I put my body and reputation on the line, or do I decline the invitation?

What do you think?  Would you like to see me in well made erotica?

John.

Well, the rain has gone away and I now have a nicer view of the landscape.  One of the things that view revealed was this billboard …

You see them around the place in Sydney regularly if you get around the cities major roads like I do.

They annoy me disproportionately.  Mostly I think because they represent one of the fundamental failings that I think we have as a society when it comes to our sexuality (and our health in general).

Premature ejaculation (which I assume is the “illness” that these people are selling a treatment for) is a physical response to a mental state bought on by incorrect conditioning of young men as they become sexually aware.  It’s not a disease that you need to pop a pill for, or take an “oral strip”, or us a “nasal delivery system” to paint over the symptom without treating the underlying problem.

As I have stated before, I am not a doctor, have not training as such.  But I am quite sure on this topic that for most men with issues of premature ejaculation that chemicals are not an appropriate response.  Why?  Because it is something that I have personally experienced and have personally overcome.  For most men all it takes is a few weeks, to a few months of practice following a simple technique described by Dr Sy Silverberg MD.  A Canadian doctor and sex therapist.  You can see his website and buy his book here:

http://sextherapy-prematureejaculation.com/

and you can also buy his book via Amazon:

http://www.amazon.com/Lasting-Longer-Treatment-Ejaculation-ebook/dp/B003OUXCHG

Just about everything in our society is now viewed in terms of money and having to buy solutions to our problems (and yes I see the irony of me being upset about that!).  There are always things that will need to be bought, like houses, and mobile phones, but the ability to have sex for as long as you and your partner want to doesn’t need to one of them.

All it takes is some self discipline (to follow the technique), some assistance from a loving partner (to help you practice when the appropriate stage is reached) and you will be rid of premature ejaculation and all of the self doubt, guilt, and conflict that it can bring with it.

Ladies, if you have a partner with PE, then you can change his life for the better by encouraging and assisting him to work through this book’s technique.

Men, if you have PE you can improve your enjoyment and satisfaction with sex and that of your partner by getting a copy of this book and making time to re-learn your responses to your partner.

My personal experience was that it took me about two weeks of practice (twice a day) to break my problem with reaching orgasm too quickly.  And the best thing is that you can do it with without spending a cent on drugs or doctors.

Yes you have to pay for the book, but that’s a one time purchase, not a life time prescription.

John.