It happened again. I met a woman who had never experienced oral sex from a partner. Not just “never had good oral sex” – but “never had it ever”.
How – in the twenty first century is this possible?
Men – I’m looking at you – you need to do better.
I mean the whole “I-want-a-blowjob-from-you-but-I’m-not-prepared-to-reciprocate” hypocrisy is bad enough. But to have never even tried it – not once – is unforgivable as a sexual being – as a man (I’m pretty sure that lesbians and bi women have this covered). We are well past the “vaginas are scary and full of magic” stage of human social evolution. We all know that oral sex is perfectly safe and healthy and normal to do.
So why aren’t more men making good oral sex skills a priority in their sex lives? I don’t have an answer to this question. I am perplexed.
I love giving oral sex. If I have a “kink” then that is probably it. I personally find it very arousing, and derive great pleasure and satisfaction from giving a woman oral sex – and hopefully an orgasm if that is what she wants.
Not all men share my enthusiasm apparently.
Which is a loss for their partners – but also for them! If you don’t give oral sex then that’s something that you yourself are missing out on, along with your partner. It’s another thing that you can share with your partner. It makes the range of sexual experiences that are possible greater. Isn’t that an excellent thing for every one?
And it may just get you a blowjob in return… I mean that’s got to be worth some investment, right?
At the end of the day I guess that this just highlights how limited many men’s view of sex is. It honestly makes me sad – for the women who don’t get the sex that they want and need to be happy and fulfilled and for the men who are living with impoverished sex lives.
We can do better as a society if we are prepared to have real conversations (and education) about sex.
John.
I came across your website and this article. I can totally concur, men like my ex don’t know how to give oral and expect more in return. Its nice to hear that you enjoy giving oral to women so they can experience a orgasm. Something I must experience one day. Lauren
Hi Lauren. Thank you for your comment, I am sorry to hear that you too are in this boat – and shame on your ex! I hope you find someone who will give you this pleasure – and if not, then you are very welcome to make a booking with me any time.
Yes there are a lot of guys out there who will not give oral and then there are the ones that eat you out. Guys need to learn how to do it. But there are women who don’t how to do a blow job either. John what don’t you do a film and have your model Emelia do a blow job on you for women interested in how to do it.
Hi Jo, thanks for your comment. Yes, it’s a mixed bag with guys. Many won’t, some will, and then many of them don’t know what they are doing.
And you are right, there are women who would like to know how to give a blowjob. Teaching oral sex is a service I offer that many women have taken me up on. Unfortunately filming a lesson like that, it’s virtually impossible to protect someones identity, which is paramount for me with anyone who films with me. Sadly, stigma around sex work and especially porn is still huge.
yes, I have to say that you are unreal at oral sex
Thank you Ange :-)