Someone recently recommended that I have a look at the column run by The Guardian called “This Is How We Do It”. It’s a compilation of stories told from the point of view of two people about their mutual sex lives.

I spent some time reading through the posts and none of them really gripped me as a catalyst to write about, but the thing that made me think was worth sharing with you is the variety of real life experiences cataloged there. 

One of the biggest problems I see for women who come to see me is that very often they feel alone in the world with their problem – be it a sexless marriage, first time sex, or just not being able to find a partner who can give them what they want and need. I think that these posts might be quite helpful as they can show that – whatever your situation is – you are not alone. There are always other people out there going through the same thing that you are. They may not have an answer for your particular situation, but I think that it’s helpful to know that whatever our problems, they are shared by others. When you can share a problem the burden is reduced.

John