I recently had a booking with a woman who I have known as a client for several years.  I hadn’t seen her in over a year and was pleasantly surprised when she contacted me again.  While chatting on the couch over a glass of wine she described to me the ups and downs of dating some men on and off over the last year.  There had been some successes and some failures, but on the whole, enough successes that she hadn’t felt the need to come and see me.

However an experience with a new date changed her mind.  He left her feeling a little worried about his trustworthiness and that got her thinking – “Do I take the risk? Or do I not?”.

Ultimately she decided not to take the risk – and part of the reason why was that she knew that she could simply come to see me instead.  Which she did.

I think that this is a really important lesson – it’s good to have an option so that you don’t succumb to “fear of missing out”, whether you exercise that option or not, just knowing that it’s there can help to make better decisions.

As per the title of this post – if you know that you can reliably get the intimacy and sex that you want and need (from someone like me) then you don’t have to “settle”.

John