I wanted to write a short piece about image and eroticism. Each of these topics, their psychology and history could fill a book, but I thought that it might be fun and informative to touch on some of the issues that in my experience shape our sexuality.
In the eye of the beholder …
While the media portrays stereotypical images of women as representing beauty, it should be said that when it comes right down to it, any woman who feels sexy, confident, and comfortable with her body can be erotic. It is true to say that I am a connoisseur of the female form in all of its erotic glory, large or small, fat or skinny, every woman can be arousing.
For every shape a woman’s body can be, there will be men and women out there who will find it attractive. This image (Rubens Venus at a Mirror from around 1615 AD) is a nice example of what may at that time have been the stereotypical image of beauty. Time’s change, perceptions change, but the spectrum of female shapes does not. Thankfully, for every woman (or man) there is someone out there who appreciates them as they are.
Love your labia (because we do!)
In recent times new forces (such as Australia’s federal government censorship laws) have lead to many women feeling insecure about the shape and size of their labia. This has in turn lead to plastic surgeons offering labia reduction surgery!
As a man who loves the female form and is dedicated to bringing the pure pleasure of orgasm to women I am dismayed that women feel this way. Labia in all of their varied shape, colour, and size are beautiful. I have never met a man who didn’t feel this way.
As any woman knows, her labia are sensitive. This is a wonderful thing for her and her lover, because playing with her labia is one more way to give her pleasure and help to bring her to orgasm. So it is worth saying: ladies, if you are worried about how your labia look, please don’t be! We love you just the way that you are.
From Brazilian to bush …
Body hair is another area that comes in for attention when we are considering image. Personally I don’t have much in the way of body hair at all, so it’s not something that I have to concern myself with overly. But this isn’t true for many people.
Waxing, shaving, depilating, and plucking one part or another is almost a ritual for many of us. Once again though, it seems that there is always someone out there who will like you for what you are.
Brazilian waxing, or shaving for women (and some men) is very popular these days, leaving none, or just a little pubic hair. I think that like many things, it is worth trying to see how you and your partner find it.
Sex and oral sex with and without pubic hair can give quite different sensations. Smooth shaved labia create for wonderfully soft gliding sensations … You may find that just the difference itself is pleasurable on occasion, even if you aren’t religious about this kind of grooming.
Shaving or waxing can also be a fun experience for a couple. Personally I quite enjoy shaving a woman’s pubic hair for her, giving a nice smooth finish. It is just one more way for me to show my appreciation of her beautiful, erotic female form.
John …
The image of Rubens Venus at a Mirror used in this page comes from Wikipedia and can be found here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Rubens_Venus_at_a_Mirror_c1615.jpg
The image of pubic hair comes from Wikimedia commons and can be found here: http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Mons_Venus_with_Hair.jpg
